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I am a little stuck. I have been dating a guy for a while now and he has just recently told me he has actually had a Vasectomy 5 years ago. I ultimately would like more children. Between us we have 3 already from past relationships.
I really like being with my boyfriend but feel that I will not be fulfilling my dream to have more children should we choose to be together and get married. We are really compatible yet feeling this will tear us apart as Inwill feel ripped off if we don't have a baby together. What to do... Feeling a bit sad about making a decision...when we are so compatible.
wow, pretty egocentric if you ask me.
He needs to know right away that you would feel "ripped off" if he is not able to have a child with you so he can get the heck out of Dodge
No person should stay with a partner who doesn't love them utterly and completely - your "love" (and I use that word loosely) is apparently conditional.
I am a little stuck. I have been dating a guy for a while now and he has just recently told me he has actually had a Vasectomy 5 years ago. I ultimately would like more children. Between us we have 3 already from past relationships.
I really like being with my boyfriend but feel that I will not be fulfilling my dream to have more children should we choose to be together and get married. We are really compatible yet feeling this will tear us apart as Inwill feel ripped off if we don't have a baby together. What to do... Feeling a bit sad about making a decision...when we are so compatible.
Maybe this is God's way of telling you to quit while you're ahead. Be glad you found someone you're compatible and leave it alone.
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If you have a great relationship with this guy, is the number of kids the two of you have that important? You both already have kids by the sounds of it, and you can focus your love for children and attention to those three now, while sharing a great relationship with each other. Doesn't sound too terrible to me.
I can sort of relate. My wife and I have been hopeful of having another child. We have one. However, in 2.5 years we have only had one miscarriage and no other pregnancies. It is very disappointing, but our decision for now has been to focus on loving our daughter and growing our own relationship... and if we are unable to have another child we will be content and happy with what we have (and we are happy with what we have).
I am a little stuck. I have been dating a guy for a while now and he has just recently told me he has actually had a Vasectomy 5 years ago. I ultimately would like more children. Between us we have 3 already from past relationships.
I really like being with my boyfriend but feel that I will not be fulfilling my dream to have more children should we choose to be together and get married. We are really compatible yet feeling this will tear us apart as Inwill feel ripped off if we don't have a baby together. What to do... Feeling a bit sad about making a decision...when we are so compatible.
Sorry, this statement is a bit ridiculous. You know, there is more to life than having more and more children. You don't need to make a new one every time you find a new partner.
Be glad you have 3 (!!!) children already, why not focus on them and your partner? If you would have even more, you would have less time for your man and all the other kids.
I hope you know how tough it is to find a compatible person, don't throw it away lightly.
It's pretty selfish to put having children as the main priority in your life, even hurting other people in the process (although it would be even worse if you continued this relationship and then broke it off later). You have three kids - focus on them. We have seven billion people in this world already!
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