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That is definitely true. I do view myself as better to a degree, because I have not done those things. I don't mean to be judgmental, but people have a way of judging me and acting as though I'm wrong because I don't have premarital sex, drink and party.
You don't mean to be judgmental, yet you are.
As long as this is the case, you thinking you are better than others, you will never be happy.
Your online dating profile is suitable however the 'issue' I see is with your age range as I find generally gal's options tend to be quite sucky. Guys seemingly are really the only ones that can easily date (much) younger and settle down with such partners. Considering likely most guys your age don't seem to want gals their age I imagine the pool of younger guys wanting gals your age is even less. So if you're after the youth appeal the suited bet may be a guy older than you who looks younger than your age. I find gals can't really be as restrictive with their options as guys can and gals unlike guys generally have to be open minded and take what they can get.
Why? Because you don't like what you are hearing? You could actually learn from what people are telling you.
I think it's more that she doesn't like being made fun of. I doubt this will be closed seeing as one of the moderator's did such as well. I doubt she can learn much worth learning from mocking, ridiculing, and laughing at her.
She has her standards- non smoker, non drinker, healthy eater who will wait until marriage. That may seem demanding, uptight, rigid, stodgy to others but it is what suits her and she can offer the same in return. She has physical attractiveness preference- youth appeal. As for the age factor to me that's a non issue considering it seems the majority of guys seek (much) younger gals. So what's good for the goose is good for the gander in this case.
I think it's more that she doesn't like being made fun of. I doubt this will be closed seeing as one of the moderator's did such as well. I doubt she can learn much worth learning from mocking, ridiculing, and laughing at her.
She has her standards- non smoker, non drinker, healthy eater who will wait until marriage. That may seem demanding, uptight, rigid, stodgy to others but it is what suits her and she can offer the same in return. She has physical attractiveness preference- youth appeal. As for the age factor to me that's a non issue considering it seems the majority of guys seek (much) younger gals. So what's good for the goose is good for the gander in this case.
I see very little ridiculing and mocking but I do see a lot of non sugar coated advice.
It's not that she has standards - it's that she thinks she is superior. That's not going to help her. And her physical attractiveness preference seems to be based more on her wanting to be still in her 20's. And men are also advised not to be unwilling to date women in their own age range.
I think it's more that she doesn't like being made fun of. I doubt this will be closed seeing as one of the moderator's did such as well. I doubt she can learn much worth learning from mocking, ridiculing, and laughing at her.
She has her standards- non smoker, non drinker, healthy eater who will wait until marriage. That may seem demanding, uptight, rigid, stodgy to others but it is what suits her and she can offer the same in return. She has physical attractiveness preference- youth appeal. As for the age factor to me that's a non issue considering it seems the majority of guys seek (much) younger gals. So what's good for the goose is good for the gander in this case.
It's perfectly acceptable to have standards. But to use those standards to rank yourself above those who don't think the exact same way you do is, as Dewdrop pointed out, arrogant.
Her arrogance is keeping her lonely, not her "standards."
I see very little ridiculing and mocking but I do see a lot of non sugar coated advice.
It's not that she has standards - it's that she thinks she is superior. That's not going to help her. And her physical attractiveness preference seems to be based more on her wanting to be still in her 20's. And men are also advised not be unwilling to date women in their own age range.
Vastly different views.
Meh her possibly thinking she is superior is non issue to me considering it seems most of those responding to her think they're superior telling her to loosen up, that she's uptight, not fun, not open minded, that it's time for serious psychotherapy, etc. I'm not focused on how she perceives herself to others but her dating profile and her standards and what she offers in return. It seems she offers what she seeks excluding the age factor.
Men were advised not to be unwilling however I doubt most take such advice so to me her pursuing younger guys is tit for tat. There's a thread on here by a guy asking how hard is it for the average guy to get a younger gal.
I'm not making fun of her. She has a right to have whatever preferences she wants. /shrug
Hypocrisy (claiming a high morality and caught lying twice as new member) bugs the bejesus out me. Also putting down how others live, certainly opened herself up to being likewise judged.
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It's perfectly acceptable to have standards. But to use those standards to rank yourself above those who don't think the exact same way you do is, as Dewdrop pointed out, arrogant.
Her arrogance is keeping her lonely, not her "standards."
Meh the arrogance in my opinion is a non issue considering many seem to use their standards- drinking, smoking, going out to put themselves above her as not being rigid, stodgy, boring etc like she is.
I doubt it's her not her standards considering the oh so many posts about how seeking a non smoker/non drinker eliminates a vast majority of the population and how few younger guys seek older gals for long-term relationships especially settling down. Plus the oh so many posts on how she needs to loosen up on those standards and those standards are too demanding and high maintenance or she'll end up alone forever.
Meh the arrogance in my opinion is a non issue considering many seem to use their standards- drinking, smoking, going out to put themselves above her as not being rigid, stodgy, boring etc like she is.
I doubt it's her not her standards considering the oh so many posts about how seeking a non smoker/non drinker eliminates a vast majority of the population and how few younger guys seek older gals for long-term relationships especially settling down. Plus the oh so many posts on how she needs to loosen up on those standards and those standards are too demanding and high maintenance or she'll end up alone forever.
Let me put it this way - I have friends who don't drink at all. Not a big deal. I have friends that don't smoke (I actually have very few friends that do smoke). I have friends that didn't have premarital sex (albeit very few). What I don't have is friends that think they are morally superior to me because of these things - just as I don't view myself as morally superior to my friends that have done things that I haven't.
Meh the arrogance in my opinion is a non issue considering many seem to use their standards- drinking, smoking, going out to put themselves above her as not being rigid, stodgy, boring etc like she is.
I doubt it's her not her standards considering the oh so many posts about how seeking a non smoker/non drinker eliminates a vast majority of the population and how few younger guys seek older gals for long-term relationships especially settling down. Plus the oh so many posts on how she needs to loosen up on those standards and those standards are too demanding and high maintenance or she'll end up alone forever.
"Meh" is not a word, you know. Or is that a typo??
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