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Please do the following as a part of getting past your shyness:
Go to another city, where nobody knows you...go to a bar or whatever where there are lots of single women. While you're there, just randomly talk to women and say "hey I'm not from around here but need to figure a few things out since I'm shy around women. Could you tell me what you honestly think of me?"
...then proceed to ask whatever you need. Ask her what she thinks of your looks, ask her if she'd give you her number/why not, etc.
You'll learn more about yourself and also get over your fears st the same time. Oddly enough, most women kind of think this is fun and amusing. Just talk to a lot of different people and take in what's positive.
Alright, you don't appear to want your entrenched beliefs to be challenged, so I'll stop trying. After all, if you can't blame it on the women, that means you have to look in the mirror and take some kind of action in order to improve your dating situation. Much easier to just convince yourself you're the victim of a game played with loaded dice.
If I had 120k (and be willing to deal with like a 6 month recovery time) I could take some action. What I learned VERY early in life was to learn to be interested in women who were interested in me. Women are the deciders on the front end and men have to decide if they want to keep what they caught when they are in the relationship.
Men chase and women get chased. I don't think that's going to change anytime soon. That isn't the issue. The real issue is whether or not a girl you like wants you chasing her. Is the guy worth it for her? What's so great about him as opposed to anyone else?
Becoming a well established, desirable, attractive person should be the exhausting part of this whole thing. That's the "work." Getting the girl is easy then. There's no secret to what women like. So many men just don't want to put in the effort in to becoming that sort of person. They want to live their lives without ever having to step out of their comfort zone or put work into anything.
Men chase and women get chased. I don't think that's going to change anytime soon. That isn't the issue. The real issue is whether or not a girl you like wants you chasing her. Is the guy worth it for her? What's so great about him as opposed to anyone else?
Becoming a well established, desirable, attractive person should be the exhausting part of this whole thing. That's the "work." Getting the girl is easy then. There's no secret to what women like. So many men just don't want to put in the effort in to becoming that sort of person. They want to live their lives without ever having to step out of their comfort zone or put work into anything.
Is she worth it for him to change who he? She is flawed just like he is.
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