Giving someone a chance (dating, women, friends, social)

[fpsbob]

Do people still do this when it comes to relationships?

These days, I feel like people look for any reason/excuse to reject someone and go find someone else.

Most of us can agree that no one is perfect, and that you can find something wrong with people when you know them long enough or well enough.

[jaypee]

Originally Posted by fpsbob

Do people still do this when it comes to relationships?

These days, I feel like people look for any reason/excuse to reject someone and go find someone else.

Most of us can agree that no one is perfect, and that you can find something wrong with people when you know them long enough or well enough.

"any reason/excuse"? No.
Maybe your deal-breakers are different from theirs. Try looking inwardly before looking for external reasons.

[JJS99]

Originally Posted by fpsbob

Do people still do this when it comes to relationships?

These days, I feel like people look for any reason/excuse to reject someone and go find someone else.

Most of us can agree that no one is perfect, and that you can find something wrong with people when you know them long enough or well enough.

It depends what position you are in.

I would give women a chance but they approach me, oh, never in my entire life.

So, I use a shotgun approach and then the first woman who will give me a chance, I see how it goes.

If you are a woman who has many options or a man in that position for that matter, then you find excuses to reject people as quickly as possible.

I don't believe this is unique to dating actually. In friendship and socializing too, people will tend to spend their time with those who give them the greatest instant gratification and life experiences and reject people they deem to be boring, unexciting, a waste of their time. The cool people. It's kind of all the same theme.

[hawaiiancoconut]

I don't have time for pity dates

[Auraliea]

If I like you, I like you. If not, then oh well.

I'm not the type to just go out and date any guy who gives me a nice compliment or thinks I'm a good girl or whatever the case may be. Everyone has different preferences in what they want in a person.

My feelings come when they want to.

[JJS99]

Originally Posted by hawaiiancoconut

I don't have time for pity dates

But who are you that you are in a position to pity somebody? (Or who is somebody else that they are in a position to pity you?)

[The Dissenter]

I am not a charity, I am a human being with dislikes and turnoffs. If you want a "chance" just for a "chance", go to 7-11 and buy a lottery ticket.

[rbohm]

Originally Posted by JJS99

So, I use a shotgun approach and then the first woman who will give me a chance, I see how it goes.

i prefer a derringer myself, far easier to conceal, and you can even make a joke with it.

[Osito]

I'll date almost anyone once. If there's no connection or he's an ass, it won't continue.

Originally Posted by hawaiiancoconut

I don't have time for pity dates

Not pity dates, just someone you might try getting to know.

[JJS99]

Originally Posted by Osito

I'll date almost anyone once. If there's no connection or he's an ass, it won't continue..

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