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What do you do? how do you talk about it? Do you change the subject?
Someone who I see at a weekly event I go to, has invited my "team" to come hang out at the bar next door and have a beer. Well, she asked me to tell my team... My team doesnt do the bar thing anyways so I woulda went alone.
I know it sounds like Im taking leaps and bounds here but this event has been going on for a while and Ive noticed her a lot. Im skipping a lot of details.... Shes noticed me a lot. I feel like shes attracted to me and Im attracted to her.
I ended up not going to meet up with her at the bar, because I had a girlfriend...and plus I had work at 6am and didnt even want to think about having a drink.
Well, now I dont have a girlfriend, and Id like to have a friendly conversation with her and maybe get a little more out of it.
If we converse, Im going to have to tell her I recently had a breakup.
What do I do if she asks for details like "what happened" ?
What should I avoid saying? i.e., "She was crazy"?
Don't place blame. Don't make fun of your ex. Don't accuse her of being crazy. If this girl is worth anything, she'll see right through all of that and think you are a jerk. She'll wonder what you'll say about her if it doesn't work out between the two of you.
Don't place blame. Don't make fun of your ex. Don't accuse her of being crazy. If this girl is worth anything, she'll see right through all of that and think you are a jerk. She'll wonder what you'll say about her if it doesn't work out between the two of you.
Tell her but keep it vague.
This. Not only should you leave the past in the past, but so should she.
Plain and simple, it just didn't work out between us. Don't place blame, once you start saying the girl is " crazy" I might think it might not be her, but you.
Agreed. If you start pulling out all of the dirty laundry right away, calling the girl the b word, or disparaging her in any way it's a big turn off and says a lot about who you are as a person. It also shows how much you really respect women if you talk crap about them that way.
I agree with the posters here. Keep it simple, it didn't work out, we weren't meant for each other, didn't share the same values, etc. is all good.
It's not, but I'd take it slow , if you like the girl . I never bring my exs up, because it's a cluster, and we are most ( changed phone no.) are friends. If a guy brings it up why I'm not with him my response, we wanted different things and it didn't work out.
I would not go out of your way to bring it up initially. Just say things did not work out, and leave it at that. You do not need to give her a long story. Its none of her business. If she is overly prying or judgemental, then it is likely a sign she is not for you anyway.
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