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let them mock you, and humiliate you to their hearts content. when you stand up for yourself, and ignore the idiocy, they will back down and give you respect. this goes with my previous post as well, its all in how you treat others, and what your attitude is towards others.
But acts like these have made a significant dent in my confidence levels at times. Worst part was that when these people discovered that such comments hurt me, they continued to fuel the oppressiveness and made me feel even worse. It made me feel like I was meant to be a knowledge machine without any feelings. Sometimes, it was so bad I cried for hours in front of mom. I didnt know what else to do.
By nature, I like helping those in trouble. My heart cant handle people suffering consequences due to random acts. I am forgiving and believe people will change through proper guidance. I will do all I can to make sure my loved ones develop a good character, and light their path during times of confusion. I will attempt to heal the wounds of a hurt companion or friend, and surely will not strain the grim atmosphere of sadness further like some of my classmates have done.
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For women, it's not so much that you need to be an interesting person to them, but an interested person. If they believe they are number 1 with you.... .
For women, it's not so much that you need to be an interesting person to them, but an interested person. If they believe they are number 1 with you.... This really applies to initial contacts with all people.
How is it possible for me to influence this parameter in a positive sense ?
For me, If a woman wins my respect through their personality and actions, then all is well. Like I said, mistakes and flaws can be corrected with proper guidance. Willingness to change for the better is my first and foremost expectation.
Last edited by Adi from the Brunswicks; 07-09-2014 at 09:22 PM..
But acts like these have made a significant dent in my confidence levels at times. Worst part was that when these people discovered that such comments hurt me, they continued to fuel the oppressiveness and made me feel even worse. It made me feel like I was meant to be a knowledge machine without any feelings. Sometimes, it was so bad I cried for hours in front of mom. I didnt know what else to do.
words only have power over you if you let them. when you can laugh at yourself, then it wont matter what others say, because they have no power over you. trust me on this, i have been there. you have to decide right now if you are going to let words have an effect on you in anyway shape or form. if you decide that words do affect you, then i cant help you. if you decide that words wont have an effect then you are halfway home to a new you.
so think about it, what is the worst thing they can say about you? that you are stupid? that you fat? bald? what? in my case i was, and still am, teased about being fat. my response to these people is, well at least your eyesight is still good, what can we work on next with you? you need to figure out how to turn the tables on your tormenters. take their power away from them. when you do that, their words lose power over you, and you gain power over them.
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By nature, I like helping those in trouble. My heart cant handle people suffering consequences due to random acts. I am forgiving and believe people will change through proper guidance. I will do all I can to make sure my loved ones develop a good character, and light their path during times of confusion. I will attempt to heal the wounds of a hurt companion or friend, and surely will not strain the grim atmosphere of sadness further like some of my classmates have done.
very good, you are thinking of others first. and you have empathy for others. we need to direct some of that to yourself so you can heal, and so you can gain power and become a force of your own.
No way its that easy . I have 4 out of the 5 qualities already. Just need to learn how to talk confidently at a personal level with women other than mom. Till now, it has mostly been professional or friendly talk.
No way its that easy . I have 4 out of the 5 qualities already. Just need to learn how to talk confidently at a personal level with women other than mom. Till now, it has mostly been professional or friendly talk.
I don't understand why you care, you have stated you'll have an arranged marriage, so it's not like you have to work that hard to find a future partner.
I don't understand why you care, you have stated you'll have an arranged marriage, so it's not like you have to work that hard to find a future partner.
What if one fine day several years later, my parents decide against arranged marriage for me, or something else unspeakably bad like getting divorced from the person I have an arranged marriage with happens. I need to show something to move on, right.
I hope none of this ever happens, but its essential to hope for the best and prepare for the worst. I am preparing for the worst, and making sure my defenses are powerful and ready to blitz whenever bad times strike.
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. I have 4 out of the 5 qualities already. Just need to learn how to talk confidently at a personal level with women other than mom. Till now, it has mostly been professional or friendly talk.
