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I met a guy online and he asked me out to dinner for this week. He wasn't exactly my type but he was funny, charming, and sweet when he tried to be. He talked about all the places he wanted to take me - for dinner, activities, etc. We ended up people watching after dinner and he went and picked me a bouquet of flowers. In total we spent about 10 hours together on our first (maybe last) date which I wasn't expecting.
Before going home we ended up getting too intimate in his car. There was no sex but I'm sure it crossed both of our minds as we probably would have wanted to keep going if we were somewhere more private. He dropped me home, we kissed goodnight a few more times and that was it.
I sent him a text thanking him for dinner and a nice time a day or so after but have heard nothing from him since our date. He works like crazy and I know he's generally strapped for time but isn't a day or two enough time to return a text? I know he always has his phone on and with him. He claims to be an upstanding guy and from some of the things he said I'm inclined to believe it. I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt but I'm starting to wonder if he just got what he wanted that night and if that's all there is to it. I don't regret anything that happened but obviously after not hearing from him I'm starting to wonder if I was just 'easy' for him and if everything else he said/did was just meaningless. It also has me feeling like garbage and I know that it's all my own fault for going farther than I should have.
Did I get played or something? It's important to note that I never go that far on a first date...maybe a kiss or something, but not like this. I'll definitely make sure I don't let myself do more than that ever again if this is the way it's going to make me feel after...
I'm so sorry- I've been in your shoes so I know exactly how this feels. I too felt like garbage.
But nothing to feel ashamed about. We all get those urges, you're only human.
So don't be so hard on yourself.
His loss if you don't hear back from him. Try to be kind to yourself.
My kid works about ten hours a day. There are times I text four or five times over a few days and don't hear back until the weekend. I would give it a few days, but not more than a week.
Give him the benefit of the doubt. And always proceed with caution if you get red flags. If he never calls back, chalk it up to a moment in life that was a bit strange. That's all you can do.
I met a guy online and he asked me out to dinner for this week. He wasn't exactly my type but he was funny, charming, and sweet when he tried to be. He talked about all the places he wanted to take me - for dinner, activities, etc. We ended up people watching after dinner and he went and picked me a bouquet of flowers. In total we spent about 10 hours together on our first (maybe last) date which I wasn't expecting.
Before going home we ended up getting too intimate in his car. There was no sex but I'm sure it crossed both of our minds as we probably would have wanted to keep going if we were somewhere more private. He dropped me home, we kissed goodnight a few more times and that was it.
I sent him a text thanking him for dinner and a nice time a day or so after but have heard nothing from him since our date. He works like crazy and I know he's generally strapped for time but isn't a day or two enough time to return a text? I know he always has his phone on and with him. He claims to be an upstanding guy and from some of the things he said I'm inclined to believe it. I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt but I'm starting to wonder if he just got what he wanted that night and if that's all there is to it. I don't regret anything that happened but obviously after not hearing from him I'm starting to wonder if I was just 'easy' for him and if everything else he said/did was just meaningless. It also has me feeling like garbage and I know that it's all my own fault for going farther than I should have.
Did I get played or something? It's important to note that I never go that far on a first date...maybe a kiss or something, but not like this. I'll definitely make sure I don't let myself do more than that ever again if this is the way it's going to make me feel after...
A day or two is enough time to ring you up to personally talk.
I don't think you did anything wrong. You met him online. I'm assuming he's dating others right now too, on top of his busy schedule, and has other personal things in his life right now.
Maybe ask yourself how you feel? You feel sad, and have every right to. But, sometimes things don't work out. And, that's okay too. Not your fault. You shan't shame yourself.
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I too felt like garbage. 
