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I met a guy online and he asked me out to dinner for this week. He wasn't exactly my type but he was funny, charming, and sweet when he tried to be. He talked about all the places he wanted to take me - for dinner, activities, etc. We ended up people watching after dinner and he went and picked me a bouquet of flowers. In total we spent about 10 hours together on our first (maybe last) date which I wasn't expecting.
Before going home we ended up getting too intimate in his car. There was no sex but I'm sure it crossed both of our minds as we probably would have wanted to keep going if we were somewhere more private. He dropped me home, we kissed goodnight a few more times and that was it.
I sent him a text thanking him for dinner and a nice time a day or so after but have heard nothing from him since our date. He works like crazy and I know he's generally strapped for time but isn't a day or two enough time to return a text? I know he always has his phone on and with him. He claims to be an upstanding guy and from some of the things he said I'm inclined to believe it. I'm trying to give him the benefit of the doubt but I'm starting to wonder if he just got what he wanted that night and if that's all there is to it. I don't regret anything that happened but obviously after not hearing from him I'm starting to wonder if I was just 'easy' for him and if everything else he said/did was just meaningless. It also has me feeling like garbage and I know that it's all my own fault for going farther than I should have.
Did I get played or something? It's important to note that I never go that far on a first date...maybe a kiss or something, but not like this. I'll definitely make sure I don't let myself do more than that ever again if this is the way it's going to make me feel after...
It's one date. It could end in marriage, it could end in silence, or it can fall somewhere in between. You never really know till someone reciprocates your communication and even then it's still unknown. In the end there's no guarantees, just the hope that two people want to work towards a common goal.
BJ on the first date though? I'd be calling you back. lol
Yeaaah not even that. We both kept our pants on, so to speak... above the waist was fair game, I suppose. We weren't in a secluded enough area for much else anyway.
I was thinking that actually...even though I told him that wasn't happening at that time and he made no moves to encourage anything more than what we did.
When I was much younger, I wanted that booty right off the bat and didn't want to wait, proabably like most young guys.
Now I'm older, I'd actually prefer to try and not have sex right away. I mean in the context of wanting a relationship, not just having a good time. If that makes any sense.
I understand why you're annoyed. Pretty much everyone has their phone within arms reach ALL the time, so there is really no rational reason that within the hour he couldn't have at least texted back with SOMETHING.
But you really should try to just forget about it. It sucks, but what else can you do?
Resist the temptation to overanalyze every little action. You were there, you did what you did. Time to move on.
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