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I always used to think you could "tell" how a woman would be in bed. Both regarding her libido, and her attitudes about sex, how important it is to her, how passive or aggressive she is, etc...
As I got more experienced, I found that, for me, women can surprise you either way - sometimes the ones who come across as hot to trot end up disappointing you, and other times, the virginal prude turns out to be a wild vixen in the sack. Then, sometimes things go exactly as your first impression suggested.
When I started dating my wife, she surprised me in a good way, but I had a "good feeling" about her (not just in sex either) from the beginning.
So - what are your experiences? Both genders welcome. Can you tell if someone has a high or low drive, how "sexual" they are, etc, just by their appearance? Not just looks in themselves, but their fashion sense, how they dress, etc? Or their personality, the way they behave?
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No, not by any of those things (looks, dress, etc).
By vibe/energy, yes, generally I can. I've gotten far better at being able to determine their general sexual nature after talking for awhile (and not about sex) as I've gotten older. Sometimes I miss it, but pretty rarely now.
I always used to think you could "tell" how a woman would be in bed. Both regarding her libido, and her attitudes about sex, how important it is to her, how passive or aggressive she is, etc...
As I got more experienced, I found that, for me, women can surprise you either way - sometimes the ones who come across as hot to trot end up disappointing you, and other times, the virginal prude turns out to be a wild vixen in the sack. Then, sometimes things go exactly as your first impression suggested.
When I started dating my wife, she surprised me in a good way, but I had a "good feeling" about her (not just in sex either) from the beginning.
So - what are your experiences? Both genders welcome. Can you tell if someone has a high or low drive, how "sexual" they are, etc, just by their appearance? Not just looks in themselves, but their fashion sense, how they dress, etc? Or their personality, the way they behave?
I dated a girl once that flat out told me, "I'm dirty in the bedroom, but I'm as good a church girl outside the bedroom".
No, not by any of those things (looks, dress, etc).
By vibe/energy, yes, generally I can. I've gotten far better at being able to determine their general sexual nature after talking for awhile (and not about sex) as I've gotten older. Sometimes I miss it, but pretty rarely now.
I have to agree with this. I tend to end up with guys who are extremely sexually confident and skilled, and it's not through any conscious process, really.
It's definitely not looks - I was on a date with a guy who had done some modeling and I wasn't feeling any chemistry. I kissed him against my better judgment (as I had not been getting the "chemistry" vibe, but apparently he was) and it was decidedly "meh." He wanted to go back to his place, and I actually turned him down despite the fact that, technically speaking, he was perfectly lovely to look at.
Yet on another occasion, I couldn't wait to get it on with a dude who, I swear to god, looked like effin' Willem Dafoe. One look from him, and I was a quivering mess.
Usually, by the time I get to the kissing stage with a guy, I already know whether I'm looking to rip his clothes off or not, lol.
I have to agree with this. I tend to end up with guys who are extremely sexually confident and skilled, and it's not through any conscious process, really.
It's definitely not looks - I was on a date with a guy who had done some modeling and I wasn't feeling any chemistry. I kissed him against my better judgment (as I had not been getting the "chemistry" vibe, but apparently he was) and it was decidedly "meh." He wanted to go back to his place, and I actually turned him down despite the fact that, technically speaking, he was perfectly lovely to look at.
Yet on another occasion, I couldn't wait to get it on with a dude who, I swear to god, looked like effin' Willem Dafoe. One look from him, and I was a quivering mess.
Usually, by the time I get to the kissing stage with a guy, I already know whether I'm looking to rip his clothes off or not, lol.
For a while (in my less confident college years), it seemed like I was always attracted to the girls who were sexually repressed - that the horny girls just weren't appealing to me. However I think it was really that *I* didn't have the confidence to be attracted to those girls.
No, and same goes for guys. I've dated guys who women would think their amazing, but in the end just average. The last guy told me he wanted to be the best I had, in my mind I thought good luck with that.
No, and same goes for guys. I've dated guys who women would think their amazing, but in the end just average. The last guy told me he wanted to be the best I had, in my mind I thought good luck with that.
Did you at least *try* to push him along in the right way?
Nothing pissed me off more than a woman who wasn't satisfied, but rather than try to tell/show me, she just sat there expecting me to figure it out like magic.
No, you can't tell at all. It's just like you said: some of the hot-looking ones can be duds, and the plain or modest ones can be firecrackers.
It's not always hot or not though, either.
I've seen GORGEOUS women that had that "innocent" look, and assumed they were total, nonsexual prudes. Sometimes, they were, othertimes, far from it.
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