Why did she bring up the marriage issue? (pregnancy, calling, friend)

[timberline742]

Originally Posted by MazzeoC

I did ask her but she was evasive. Said she was just curious. Women, you never know what they mean or want.

You've been with someone 9 years, have 3 kids, and don't know what she means when she speaks or wants?

Holy relationship fail.

[MazzeoC]

Originally Posted by timberline742

You've been with someone 9 years, have 3 kids, and don't know what she means when she speaks or wants?

Like I said, this is a new issue to us (to me at least).

[NewbiePoster]

Is there a reason you thought complete strangers would know your gf's mind better than you would?

Originally Posted by timberline742;

You've been with someone 9 years, have 3 kids, and don't know what she means when she speaks or wants?

Holy relationship fail.

Agreed.

[NewbiePoster]

Originally Posted by MazzeoC

Can't see why, women are always women.

What does this mean?

Originally Posted by MazzeoC;

What I find strange is that she never, ever brought up this issue.

My bet is--neither did you. It sounds like you two are long overdue.

[MazzeoC]

Originally Posted by NewbiePoster

Is there a reason you thought complete strangers would know your gf's mind better than you would?
Agreed.

She's more than a girlfriend. Sometimes anonymous opinions can help.

[NewbiePoster]

Originally Posted by MazzeoC

She's more than a girlfriend.

What would you call her, then?

[mochamajesty]

Originally Posted by NewbiePoster

What would you call her, then?

Seriously.


You want the benefits of marriage without the piece of paper.

Talk to her.

[timberline742]

Originally Posted by NewbiePoster

What would you call her, then?

At that point, most people (that I know) refer to the person as a partner. At least that is how people living together for years generally seem to introduce their significant others around here.

[jessxwrites89]

Well, her family is religious, what do you expect? You should have had this discussion before there was a pregnancy with the first child. There are a lot of families that would like to see their daughter get married to her true love... especially AFTER HAVING THREE KIDS WITH THE MAN! I'm not about marriage either, but I can see the point after having three kids. By that point, something should be more concrete (she probably also feels hurt that her family is calling your children "children of sin" and would probably like something to make it more "official"). I agree with mochamajesty... it seems like you want the benefits of marriage without the piece of paper. I'd have a VERY LONG talk with her.

[MazzeoC]

Originally Posted by mochamajesty

You want the benefits of marriage without the piece of paper.

Talk to her.

Yes, I don't want a piece of paper. What's wrong with it?