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My partner and I have been together for 9 years. We have 3 children aged 5, 3 and 2.
Marriage has never been an issue with us. We never talked about it, we simply moved in together when we thought it was the right time. My family has never cared about it, my mother refers to her as her daughter-in-law and my brother as her SIL.
Her family is a different story, since they're religious. So the other day she asked me if I had never thought about marriage. I told her no, never cared about it. I'm with her because I want to be and that's all that matters. A couple of her friends married in church lately so I don't know if that has had any influence.
Why are you asking us? How could we possibly know? When she asked you, would it have been so hard to say, "No, I never really cared about it. Why do you ask?"
Why are you asking us? How could we possibly know? When she asked you, would it have been so hard to say, "No, I never really cared about it. Why do you ask?"
I did ask her but she was evasive. Said she was just curious. Women, you never know what they mean or want.
I did ask her but she was evasive. Said she was just curious. Women, you never know what they mean or want.
If you've been with her for 9 years, had 3 kids with her, and still don't know what she means or wants, there's something wrong. Maybe she was just curious to know if you'd ever thought about it.
If you've been with her for 9 years, had 3 kids with her, and still don't know what she means or wants, there's something wrong. Maybe she was just curious to know if you'd ever thought about it.
Can't see why, women are always women. What I find strange is that she never, ever brought up this issue.
Maybe she was quietly waiting and hoping, and now she feels bad she did. Sounds like she never pressured you. At the same time, she's probably feeling a bit sad the thought never crossed your mind after having been together for almost a decade and a family later.
She probably feels a little unappreciated and taken for granted for.. Women aren't as complicated as what society likes to paint us out to be. You don't seem to understand her needs, as a mother, and as your significant other. She wants complete affirmation of your commitment to her. Obviously.
Maybe she was quietly waiting and hoping, and now she feels bad she did. Sounds like she never pressured you. At the same time, she's probably feeling a bit sad the thought never crossed your mind after having been together for almost a decade and a family later.
She probably feels a little unappreciated and taken for granted for.. Women aren't as complicated as what society likes to paint us out to be. You don't seem to understand her needs, as a mother, and as your significant other. She wants complete affirmation of your commitment to her. Obviously.
I don't think I ever gave her reasons to feel that way. I don't like contracts where a government dictates the rules of my relationship.
It seems like you two don't have good communication on this score.
I admit sometimes I don't get her. I'm very straightforward and it sometimes feel like I have to guess her mind.
I hope her family isn't having any influence in this. She had an aunt who called our kids "the children of sin".
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