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My ex not only dated, but married my exact opposite-not in terms of looks, but in personality and lifestyle.
She is 100% financially dependent, dislikes children, has no friends, is into new age-y shaman stuff (he is a skeptic) and has such insecurity and low self esteem she never leaves the house. When she does she is reportedly rude and obnoxious to everyone. All of his friends avoid her and talk smack about her, but he seems happy.
It has been fascinating. I don't know if people change after 20 years or if he was always wanting to live a completely different life than we had. A question for the ages!
this is a facinating observation. tracking your ex can be a learning tool for you. i approve. no better place to do it than eharmony and facebook.
if you follow the eharmony behavior-- often they are dating people that do not even hit one item on the 7 page "must have" list.
and often hitting at least one item on the "deal breaker" list.
for all their list making-- people tend to do what they have always done. "must have" and "deal breaker" lists are all valient attempts to stop the behavior. accusing people of stereotyping and judgemental behavior are ways of trying to weasel out of being called on your stuff.
your stuff, always painfully obvious after a breakup, hence the rebound.
Last edited by Huckleberry3911948; 07-17-2014 at 10:52 AM..
I guess I don't see this as an issue, because every man I have ever been in a relationship with has been different from the other men I've been in relationships with. Apart from all of them being intelligent, they have really nothing in common. I don't have a type. Not all people do.
I guess I don't see this as an issue, because every man I have ever been in a relationship with has been different from the other men I've been in relationships with. Apart from all of them being intelligent, they have really nothing in common. I don't have a type. Not all people do.
It's just a question. Some people stay friends with their exes.
This is something I have found to be quite interesting as I know a lot of people who go through this, myself included.
For instance say your ex was into exotic brunettes and suddenly turns to blondes or was into the typical "caucasian" (light skin, light hair) man and is suddenly dating exotic men after your break up ... How would you interpret this sudden switch? (Would you take offense ...)
After going through multiple disappointments with men who were supposedly "my type", I'm suddenly attracted to the complete opposite to the point where I no longer have any sort of sexual attraction towards these "exes". Sure, I think they're cute but quite meh. Hence, I'm quite curious.
The key word here is "EX". Why would you care what an ex does?
My level of insecurity would depend on how much I feel like he's into me.
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