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Because of my upbringing, I absolutely cannot date a conservative or Republican. I was raised in a Republican family with a mostly Republican social circle. I love my family dearly, but most of them are not people I aspire to emulate in the moral sense. My father is a borderline sociopath who frequently and casually broke the law (still breaks it even in his 80s), and my mother has very strong narcissistic tendencies and little intellectual life. My extended family is a hotbed of dysfunction and hypocrisy.
I KNOW there are plenty of Republicans/conservatives who are good people. And in fact, the people who have most shaped my moral code in a positive way and who are my moral guidestones are Republicans. But most of the people I grew up among were pretty morally bankrupt or did not really value education or critical thought. That was my personal experience. There's a lot more to the story, but because of that overall experience, I am heavily invested in dating someone whose political views align with mine to a large degree and who has a similar moral code.
I know politics aren't a dealbreaker for most people, but they're a huge one for me.
They were for me, sort of.
I'm Republican but have a lot of libertarian flavor to my politics. I abhor Socialism and economic leftism, but I'm not a particular fan of Religious Right Bible-thumpery, either.
What is a dealbreaker that you have that most people don't have?
Hmm. Most of my dealbreakers are pretty common. I would never date someone who smokes, is religious, politically conservative, severely overweight, or is cruel to animals.
The only dealbreaker I have that might qualify as uncommon is that I won't date someone who has a nose ring. I can't really say why it bothers me and it seems pretty silly to reject someone for something so minor. But then again, preferences aren't supposed to make sense.
Mill I can see. That would bug me. But certainly not a breeder.
Many of my friends who are REALLY into dog rescue groups have dogs that they bought from breeders. My housemate has two rescue dogs and has long been a "foster parent" for rescue dogs, but she is planning to get her next dog from a breeder.
All of my animals right now are rescues (in one sense or another), but my next dog could very well come from a breeder as well, because I want very specific qualities and I want to get the puppy as soon as it is weaned for optimal training.
Dog sports people are open to taking in the most difficult, high-energy dogs that would never be able to live in a pet home - they rescue HUGE numbers of animals. But they also want dogs that can do very specific things - and sometimes that means they have to go to a breeder to get that.
Personally, I don't see why a dog from a breeder should be a dealbreaker. Do my friends nullify the vast amount of work they've done to rescue unwanted dogs simply because they sometimes buy the exact dog they want? I'd have to say no.
I've been on dates before where I would ask if I can have a bite of what they're having (since I pay for all my dates ) only to get a mad dog look, nvm lol
Ooh, this is a good one! I have to agree! LOL! I never thought about it, since basically everyone I know shares. And apparently I look friendly or something, because strangers offer to share with me too!*
Other stuff on my list, which might seem weird:
1. Anyone who uses the N-word as a greeting for anyone (and it seems like anyone under 30 thinks this is word is OK to use. Latinos, Indians, Asians, basically everyone black or brown Ugh!)
2. Anyone diametrically opposed to transit (having transit access is such and important lifestyle choice for me!)
*Some of these stinger experiences included, telling a guy the dessert he had looked yummy and he handed me a spoon to try some. LOL! A woman offering me a sip of the fancy rum she was tasting. Oh and of course people at communal tables always offer a share when I ask what apps they are eating. I don't offer to share with strangers, unless it is a group outing and they know another one of my friends! I get it with randos!
I love that everyone can rattle off a laundry list of minor to major deal breakers without anyone batting an eye, but if you list "ex or current-****" you get shamed into the Stone Age.
Just sayin.
Note: my gf used to be a sloot. I just find it hypocritical that guys get shamed for having that as a deal breaker.
Fair enough. The only people I know that go to breeders anymore are people with specific bird dog needs/wants and do the trials, etc.
Yeah, I mean...I GET it. I just couldn't date such a person. I had a friend that grew up with a rare breed of dog and loved him with all her heart. When he died, she wanted to get the same breed and couldn't find it through the traditional adoptive means (or so she told me...if I were her, I'd lie to me abut it), so she went to a breeder. I don't agree, but I understand.
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Originally Posted by CarbonCountyLiving
Breeders usually don't make much profit if they do it right and care for their dogs properly, but that's Off topic.
It's greater than zero.
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Originally Posted by JrzDefector
Personally, I don't see why a dog from a breeder should be a dealbreaker. Do my friends nullify the vast amount of work they've done to rescue unwanted dogs simply because they sometimes buy the exact dog they want? I'd have to say no.
I'm not suggesting it should be a dealbreaker for anyone else. After all this is a thread about unique dealbreakers. I just couldn't date someone who did this. I get why people do it, but I couldn't do it myself and I couldn't date someone who did either.
When my husband and I were first dating I was wearing orange and blue one day, and he said, "Oh no, you're not an Auburn fan, are you?" I said, "No, I'm a Florida fan," and he said, "Well, that's pretty bad, but if you'd been an Auburn fan I was going to have to stop dating you, it would never work between us."
Not at hockey at least, which is the only sport that matters.
Amen
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) only to get a mad dog look, nvm lol
