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I'm Republican but have a lot of libertarian flavor to my politics. I abhor Socialism and economic leftism, but I'm not a particular fan of Religious Right Bible-thumpery, either.
See, I can't even date a moderate Republican. It's just too reminiscent of the dysfunction and hypocrisy that marked my upbringing, even though yes, I know there are perfectly good people who are Republicans and in fact many of my friends ARE Republicans. I think my problem was that 1) my family often seemed to use their political beliefs to justify their worst traits and 2) the fact that I held different political beliefs (once I started to hold political beliefs, that is) caused them to further view me as the oddball or outcast of the family. Having different political views (or at least the seeds of different political views when I was younger) was very isolating for me at a time when I really needed my family to embrace me to the fullest extent.
Interestingly, I've always been very moderate on gun control (while I was in Jersey I thought the laws there were too restrictive), but since moving to Colorado I've become a much bigger fan of it. Many of the most vociferous gun rights supporters I've encountered here have severe substance abuse problems (or are in recovery) and/or have committed major crimes and gotten away with them. They are not people I think should have unrestricted access to firearms - yet they're the ones arguing for their 2nd amendment rights the most aggressively.
The last moderate Republican I dated was very liberal on social issues but also very much into having guns around - he'd been to rehab for a coke addiction and I later realized after a month or so of dating that he had a pretty big drinking problem. Combine those factors and with some (non-combat) PTSD issues and a love of high-powered firearms, and I just wasn't really feeling the relationship. Did I think this guy was a danger to society? Not really, but ... in my opinion there was nothing good that was going to come from him having a gun, and plenty that could go wrong. Mistakes happen - and they're far more likely to happen when a gun owner is frequently drunk or not always thinking rationally.
I will not ever date someone who does not believe in evolution.
Yes, this. Actually, I wasn't interested in dating anyone who didn't accept the ToE and wasn't either a secular humanist or spiritual in the nontheistic (classical) sense. I greatly preferred someone educated, often in one of the STEM fields, soft sciences or Humanities, as I have a soft spot for intellectuals.
Other deal-breakers, someone who is socially conservative (no Republicans or right-wingers), isn't intellectually curious, non-artistic/creative, and isn't into cinema/film, especially sci-fi, fantasy, action, thriller, epic, indie (I am a cinephile), the arts, etc. I strongly preferred someone be into gaming at least somewhat, and enjoys going to sci-fi and fantasy cons.
There are certain interests and activities that are important to me, and are deal-breakers. I really only pursued those interested in specific niche groups. Oh, and no to vegetarians and vegans. A lover of bacon and butter is a must. Also not to those who don't like cats.
Yes, this. Actually, I wasn't interested in dating anyone who didn't accept the ToE and wasn't either a secular humanist or spiritual in the nontheistic (classical) sense. I greatly preferred someone educated, often in one of the STEM fields, soft sciences or Humanities, as I have a soft spot for intellectuals.
Other deal-breakers, someone who is socially conservative (no Republicans or right-wingers), isn't intellectually curious, non-artistic/creative, and isn't into cinema/film, especially sci-fi, fantasy, action, thriller, epic, indie (I am a cinephile), the arts, etc. I strongly preferred someone be into gaming at least somewhat, and enjoys going to sci-fi and fantasy cons.
There are certain interests and activities that are important to me, and are deal-breakers. I really only pursued those interested in specific niche groups. Oh, and no to vegetarians and vegans. A lover of bacon and butter is a must. Also not to those who don't like cats.
I'd ask you out, but I'm taken.
How do you feel about sports? Another dealbreaker for me is that my partner cannot be a bandwagoner fan, and she must have at least a passing interest in hockey.
Hmmm, if it counts as uncommon, then my range of acceptable political and religious views is not very wide (moderate progressive would be my sweet spot). Another one, which I'm pretty sure is uncommon, is I really don't like piercings of any kind. I can tolerate small, low-profile earrings, but anything else just really bothers and distracts me. And yes, I know that alone eliminates like 99.99% of women on the planet, sadly.
How do you feel about sports? Another dealbreaker for me is that my partner cannot be a bandwagoner fan, and she must have at least a passing interest in hockey.
I'm a casual sports fan. I grew up around football, and enjoy going to live games. A live baseball game can be fun. I don't actually get anything out of watching sports on TV. Hockey is cool. I went to a few games growing up, but it isn't a big thing in the area I grew up.
I was talking about this with 2 of my closest friends. They understand this, but it's not something they feel strongly about. I am very into environmental and animal rights. I will not date a man who bought his dog through a breeder or pet shop when there are dogs being killed everyday at pounds. I broke this "rule" around November because I live in Reno and it is slim pickings of men here. The boyfriend I had, had 3 dogs from a breeder, bred his dogs a couple of times, and refused to get his dogs fixed. We didn't end the relationship due to that, but it was something about him I could never get over. I won't date someone who bought from a breeder or store again.
Hmmmm....interesting question. In this regard, even though I'm past worrying about "deal breakers" my peeve is bitterness toward an ex that someone won't let go of. Particularly when revenge and a desire to hurt are motivations. I've seen this even after its been years since a breakup, and so , I guess, my big deal breaker would be not being willing to let go. Especially if I am expected to sympathize or even participate in schemes. I won't swim in a pool of someone else's negative emotions.
Hmmmm....interesting question. In this regard, even though I'm past worrying about "deal breakers" my peeve is bitterness toward an ex that someone won't let go of. Particularly when revenge and a desire to hurt are motivations. I've seen this even after its been years since a breakup, and so , I guess, my big deal breaker would be not being willing to let go. Especially if I am expected to sympathize or even participate in schemes. I won't swim in a pool of someone else's negative emotions.
We aren't bitter. We were friends briefly after and then we realized we just shouldn't be in each other's lifes. I overlooked my dealbreaker because I was desperate.
I won't date guys with kids and generally men who have been divorced. Did both and regret it. I also won't date non religious men or men who hate animals. The result? I found a man fitting EVERYTHING I wanted and more. His kids are animals like a dog, birds, etc.
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