From one LTR to...

[Ceece]

My daughter has a saying "every new relationships is a rebound from your last one". Sometimes there is just more time between them, but I don't think the time matters at all.

One thing to keep in mind though, you probably do feel more for NEW GIRL because you want out of your relationship and she is offering you a soft place to land. You're probably scared to be alone on top of all the other stuff that complicates your split so you might not actually want NEW GIRL when you're free. And she may not actually want you either. For some people it's just the thrill of getting a person to leave someone else, an ego thing.

[jaredC]

Originally Posted by Ceece

My daughter has a saying "every new relationships is a rebound from your last one". Sometimes there is just more time between them, but I don't think the time matters at all.

One thing to keep in mind though, you probably do feel more for NEW GIRL because you want out of your relationship and she is offering you a soft place to land. You're probably scared to be alone on top of all the other stuff that complicates your split so you might not actually want NEW GIRL when you're free. And she may not actually want you either.

I have given this a lot of thought. I asked myself, on many occasions, " what would happen if I split with my girlfriend, and then my new girlfriend decided she didn't like me a whole lot either". All I know is the new girl has not been in anything resembling a relationship for about 2 years. I asked her why, and she said that because her last relationship ended badly and was afraid to start a new one, and the moment we started to hang out, she developed feelings for me and knew she wanted to be in a relationship.

[cloven]

Originally Posted by Dewdrop93

I'm probably in the minority on this one - but I think your chances of the relationship succeeding are the same as any relationship succeeding. I called of my wedding because I fell in love with someone else and realized that I wasn't happy in my current relationship and hadn't been for some time. I married that someone else and we've been married for 9 years. And before that - I was with someone for 5 years but ended it to be with my ex-fiance - whom I was with for 3 1/2 years. Obviously - things didn't work out between my ex fiancé and me - but not every relationship works out. But regardless of if things will work out with this new girl or not (and only time will tell) - you shouldn't stay with your girlfriend if you aren't in love with her. The new girl might just be a shiny new toy that bores you once it is in your possession or she could be your future life partner. The only way you ever find out how a relationship will go is to actually have the relationship.

^This.

My longest relationship was with a guy who was in an LTR right up until he left her for me.
He & I were together for 8.5 yrs. (and got married, too).
It did eventually end-but I don't consider that an indictment/invalidation of what we had, while we had it.

He then had a brief fling, and moved on to another LTR (which he's been in for 9 years now).
I moved on to another LTR (which lasted 3 years)-so I don't believe the hype/cliche about strict time limits or rebounding & such.

[1w0n]

overlapping is a sign of weakness in a person. For fear of being alone, you can't just end one, before starting a new one? Lamer.... have more self respect, and dignity. You stay in relationships for purely selfish reasons, and shows that your skewered view of what makes a bad or good relationship, needs to be tweaked.

The above posts about the FWB's those are for people with advanced dating experience...