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Well I heard somewhere that cougar women are less likely to be turned off by virgins than young women are
Watch it - I'm no cougar at 30. I'm also not a mom, so don't dare call me a MILF either.
My opinion on this now is the same as it was when I was 20 anyway.
I find virginity rather neutral - not positive nor negative in itself. But I am also the type who doesn't like to think about a partner's previous lovers. Men who've slept around are unattractive to me for numerous reasons. In that sense, virginity might be preferred to promiscuity.
Well I heard somewhere that cougar women are less likely to be turned off by virgins than young women are
That's crazy. Why would young women be turned off by virgins? Some of them are virgins themselves. Others have had only one relationship by the time they'd meet a 25-year-old guy. I don't know where some of the guys here get such harsh images of women. I think it's more a case of the guys' fears coloring their perceptions. Remember, there are all kinds of women out there. With all manner of mentality, experience (and lack thereof), and preferences.
In a case like this, is less lying than it is omitting. Ethically, it may be a grey area, but no one walks around handing out cards that say, "Hi! I've never had sex!" If he's never asked directly, he's not necessarily lying.
Last edited by fleetiebelle; 08-05-2014 at 06:50 PM..
In a case like this, is less lying than it is omitting. Ethically, it may be a grey area, but no one walks around handing out cards that say, "Hi! I've never had sex!"
I guess....but I don't like lying...regardless of the situation.
Men who are good with women make the woman feel special, like she's the most fascinating person in the room, without putting obligation on her to boost his ego (which will seem needy or arrogant & be a turn-off). They GIVE without any hidden agenda & without "niceness" out of insecurity. In short, cluelessness comes from not paying attention because of self-absorption & too much concern over one's own needs & feelings.
Disagree. Men who are good with women are able to convey they have equal to, or GREATER value (dating/social-wise) than the women they pursue, which in turns attracts the women to them. Give without any hidden agenda? I'd say they're not-so-hidden agenda is to have sex with women, that cat was kind of out of the bag, awhile back, I think.
This supposed good looking guy needs to get his ass out there and meet dozens upon dozens, upon hundreds, of women, and force himself to interact. The longer he waits the worse it'll get. He shouldn't fear rejection, he should fear another 25 years of sexless living wherein he gets no attention or interaction with women. I would advise your friend NEVER tell any woman he's a virgin, or hasn't had a girlfriend. Women love getting a guy they perceive as high value, who is experienced, and a 'catch'. He can excuse his awkwardness with intimacy by saying "it's been awhile" since his last relationship or whatever. If he wants to demystify sex I'd say go the escort route, get rid of the virginity monkey, then he'll be more sure of himself in that department. If your friend spent seemingly no time with girls, or even chasing them all these years, if he has any brains surely he's accomplished professionally, or school-wise, makes good money, has interesting hobbies and knowledge to share, that give him things to talk about and dating value he can work with. If not, he's really misspent his time.
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