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I look at him until we make eye contact and once that happens I smile slightly and look down or away like I am shy, or embarrassed that he caught me staring. Works like a charm! I think it's disarming, and gives him the idea that I am approachable. Like it's his idea to come over and talk to me. LOL
That technique works on me all the time- it's alluring
I don't do anything, because, I never flirt.I am non-flirty type of guy.
I have two questions though.
1. Are you a flirty type of person, I mean naturally, by nature are you like that?
My normal personality is friendly and bubbly. People generally feel at ease around me. I am the person that random people with talk about their life secrets with a few minutes after meeting. I get a little bit more reserved around people I am attracted to. But on the scheme of things my reserved is pretty outgoing.
My normal inclination is to be a little bit touchy, but I generally make a concerted effort to turn it off until the lines/rules are established with someone.
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2. Why must you flirt? why should you or why do you want to? do you feel obliged to do so?
Flirting is a fun thing to do. It is a way to interact with people. Flirting doesn't mean dropping suggestive lines in the conversation, it is all about making a conversation enjoyable and connecting with someone else. Flirting also helps with intent, if you want it too. So people can discern friendly vs interested.
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In my view flirting is absolutely unnecessary, if you are a true person and if you not flirty by nature then I would suggest you just be yourself, and leave it to others to decide if they want to approach you or not, there is no need to change into someone or be different than who you are, it's not a good thing.
If I was in your place, I will never flirt, I would rather face the consequences rather than changing myself, so it's up to you to decide, what's best for you.
However,
If you are naturally flirty or as a person if you are like that then I don't have anything to say because I am not like that.
I really don't understand what you mean here. How is "flirting" changing you as a person. How is putting yourself in a position to be noticed not being true.
There is an old adage about making your own luck. But as someone mentioned in another thread, our mating dance has rules and gender roles. Men choose and women put themselves in a position to be chosen.
I really don't understand what you mean here. How is "flirting" changing you as a person. How is putting yourself in a position to be noticed not being true.
It all depends from person to person, how they look at flirting from their point of view, according to me, there are three categories of people here.
1. One who are naturally flirty, flirting comes naturally to them, they are like that, that's who they are.
2. People who in normal circumstances don't flirt but will only if they see an opportunity or if they want to get noticed but they don't do it for fun
3. Who never flirt, by choice, they are non-flirty.
Of course there can be many more categories.
So what I said was in general , I don't know what kind of person you are, I don't know if you are among the 3 categories I have mentioned or you are someone different, I don't know so I just said that normally.
What I meant to say was if flirting is not a part of your personality and if you are not like that as a person then you don't have to change into a flirty person for any purpose, you see that is also a change , anything other then being your natural self is a change,
It may not apply to you, you may disagree with this, it's okay.
I don't know how to explain further as I never flirt so I don't have much to say here, if it doesn't apply to you, just leave it.
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Originally Posted by jade408
There is an old adage about making your own luck. But as someone mentioned in another thread, our mating dance has rules and gender roles. Men choose and women put themselves in a position to be chosen.
Of course there is nothing wrong in making your own luck, true but not all can do that, not all are capable of doing that, one has to be brave to do that.
Hence,
If that's you believe then it's okay, however I don't believe in that, I am not sure but I think it can be both ways, and not one sided as you had mentioned .
Hence it's your decision after all, nothing wrong if you believe in what you say.
There is an old adage about making your own luck. But as someone mentioned in another thread, our mating dance has rules and gender roles. Men choose and women put themselves in a position to be chosen.
actually its the other way around, the women do the choosing, its the men that put themselves into position to be chosen. remember sex for women is a choice, they can choose to have it or not, and who they have it with. for men its a chore, in that we have to work the woman to get her to choose us.
actually its the other way around, the women do the choosing, its the men that put themselves into position to be chosen. remember sex for women is a choice, they can choose to have it or not, and who they have it with. for men its a chore, in that we have to work the woman to get her to choose us.
nope, tried that once, tripped and ended up somewhere in the grand canyon.
again because of my quantum feet. they can be either left, or right, or left and right at the same time, which means they are confused on a regular basis.
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That's creepy.
