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Dating is a process of looking for someone very precious and special. That means in this search, it is necessary to filter through a lot of junk. Fortunately you found out early this woman was some of the junk. Some find this out much later in the process and the price is a lot steeper and the cost is things a lot more important and precious than money.
Huh. I'm puzzled as to why she had anything boxed up if she was going to pretend to go to the bathroom and ditch you.
As an aside, I would never have bread boxed up, especially on a date!
Same here. She sounds like a prize...lol
However, I have waited to use the ladies room for a bit...but usually only when the place was really busy and it was a casual environment (hockey game, theme park..etc).
Maybe she had a mishap? She was sick, had the runs, shat her pants, got her period and bled through...
you will likely never know if she flaked because she's a flake, or because there was some other extenuating circumstance.
Sucks that it happened, but sounds like you dodged a bullet if she didn't have any good excuse to leave without letting you know first.
I've had a girl walk out on a date when I was in my early 20's. She didn't let me know either. Its more upsetting than many people realise. Unless its actually happened to you.
It was nothing I did, as probably in the OP's case. There can be numerous reasons why she did it. But its nothing you should blame yourself for, unless you did something offensive or similar. Its all on her.
So, were you not going to pay for the bill on the second date? Had you discussed the check and she bailed after that?
Did you have the waitress go into the restroom and call her name? I don't think I'd have left unless I were sure. She could have eaten some food that didn't agree with her.
For all you know, she could have gotten kidnapped and carried off somewhere. Especially if you had wanted a third date, I'd try to get in contact with her and let her know from your perspective she seemed to disappear. Leave a message.
Had this happen to a friend of mine, i thought it was something that only happened on TV.
My buddy met this girl online, went to a movie, she got up to go the bathroom and never came back.
The people that do these things have issues, its not you, or my friend, it's them.
Yet, we have had entire threads of men that have admitted doing this to women on 1st dates, and they are fully justified in doing so.... My, how we have a double standard!
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It is never justifiable to be rude, IMO. The only way I could sign off on such a behavior is if one party felt unsafe, or if the person was over the top out of line in some sexual way, but even then, a sorry, we're not a match before leaving is in order.
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Well, when you called her, what did she say?
Funny I've dated a bit for 25 years and never had anything remotely happen like some of these common threads.
And 15 minutes in many places isn't that long. Might have had to wait that long.
It happens more common than you think. You are a lucky one, timberline, not to experience this.
It happened to me as well. I was waiting for the date for 30 minutes bathroom break to no avail. Tried to call, no answer.
To the OP, don't feel down. It is not your fault. People date to find out whether they are compatible with you. And there is a huge chance that you ar not compatible with them. However, it is still rude for her to leave you with no news.
maybe her menstrual cycle started and she had to leave but was too embarrassed to tell you. *shrug*
even if some kind of emergency did take place, it was rude of her to just leave like that. just forget about her. she's a rude biatch, obviously. she doesn't even deserve a lunch at mcdonald's.
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