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I've been reading quite a bit of recent and older threads here the past few days. Particularly threads where the OP has come to seek guidance on their relationship, whether they are married, just dating and regardless of how long they've been together..
I noticed a pattern with nearly every thread, no matter how trivial the issue, nor how little detail given(God knows, relationships are complicated and there's more than one side to a story. Summing one up in a few paragraphs is difficult, to say the least.)...
That trend, is countless posters(usually women, not trying to be sexist but I noted this fact from my limited observation...) advising the op in the following ways: 'Just walk away, don't look back' 'Just leave, it's obviously done' 'your relationship is broken, there's no way to repair it' etc. etc. . . . You get the point.
I've just been taken aback by how easy some are to suggest giving up on a relationship. I must stress that many of the issues where breaking up has been advocated, were truly trivial and often times one-time events in the context of a 5+ year relationship... I mean, people are human, they make mistakes.. They get into fights, they have faults.
No wonder the divorce rate is so high these days...Sorry to post this, I'm sure most will find it to be a useless thread, yet I found it pretty disconcerting... As when I first noticed the trend I sat here and pondered, have these particular individuals' advice unnecessarily broken up a very much salvageable relationship in some cases? The very thought scared me. I do have to say(sorry to some women) that overall, men here have come across as more level-headed and reasonable in their approach to advising someone with relationship troubles. Please don't take this the wrong way, with what little time I've spend browsing this forum I could name a dozen or so female posters whose input is just amazing, reasonable, well thought out and informative.
That's because some of the crap that women will put up with in a relationship is just too ridiculous and the obvious answer is that it needs to end. I'm sorry but a lot of guys don't have the kind of relationship issues that many of the female posters present on CD because most men just won't put up with a lot of the crap that women do just to say they have someone.
Take that thread: Husband seems emotionally stuck.
I've just been taken aback by how easy some are to suggest giving up on a relationship. I must stress that many of the issues where breaking up has been advocated, were truly trivial and often times one-time events in the context of a 5+ year relationship... I mean, people are human, they make mistakes.. They get into fights, they have faults. .
I am going to need to see some examples, because I just don't believe this part. ^^^
You need to give more examples, because I can't think of instances where the majority of posters have advised others to leave unless it's become an impossible situation.
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