Men do this too?

[Faith2187]

Originally Posted by timberline742

You're wanting sex, but you haven't wanted sex with him for two months, or at least you haven't wanted it enough to jump his bones.

You're confused (understatement) and playing around with other people's minds and hearts as you try to figure it out. Kind of an a-hole maneuver. Stop screwing around (figuratively) with other people. Really. Stop.

Meh for once I agree with you. I feel like a really crappy person and I dont know why I can't get it together. I just feel like such a flaky indecisive person and it's killing me because I don't want to be but I don't know how to not be this way. I don't want to hurt anyone or lead anyone on or hurt myself or self sabotage and yet I do. I don't know why and I don't know how to get what I want in the least harmful most realistic way, it just seems impossible and maybe that's why I keep ending up back in this position. What I want isn't realistic and probably just can't happen. Ugh.

[Adhom]

Originally Posted by NilaJones

My experience is that men often think they can have sex without feelings, and then the feelings develop and they are surprised. I think he will fall for you.

We can definitely have sex without the emotional attachment, depending on the woman. What doesn't happen is for a man to never be able to form any emotional attachment to anyone. There will always be that one girl who steals his heart. It may not be you.