The Captivating man. (problems, meaning, good looking, unattractive)
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I love how this thread has more responses than the other.
Confidence is captivating. I think someone said the same thing on the other thread. The day I met the man I'm seeing now, he took me to lunch and acted as if he owned the place. (Later he told me he was nervous as hell, but he never broke a sweat.)
Meanwhile, I was starting to get concerned that he was too suave, because I'm pretty goofy. Then he came out with some off the wall joke out of left field that just left me in stitches.
Seriously guys, a sense of humor + confidence. Captivating as hell!!
I was a guest at the wedding of a young couple yesterday. At the end of the ceremony, one look at the bride would have told you she was totally captivated by her husband. I can tell you this much about the man: He's young, handsome and healthy, but has no money. He does however, have a beautiful personality, he's positive, sunny disposition and his love for God virtually shines out him. He works at being excellent in all that he does and has a way about him that attracts people to him from many walks of life...young, old, black, white, rich, poor. It doesn't matter to him.
So that said, looks will draw a man to a woman, but I think it's the KIND of man he is that would keep a woman captivated to him. It's not always about money...especially if the woman is independent or has she herself has developed good character in her life and has a correct attitude toward money and material possessions.
Last edited by laorbust61; 07-27-2014 at 08:32 AM..
Hmmm - this thread has a lot of "filler" and a lot of stuff from/about Canucks.... LOL
But to the question at hand: To me, what I find captivating in a man is direct eye contact with a twinkle in his eye, great smile and sense of humour, kind-hearted yet strong spirited, confident, optimistic and intelligent. Looks (as well as age) to me are secondary, and barely play a part in it - I have been fascinated by all different types of men - short, thin, tall, heavy, etc, etc. It's all about the qualities I mentioned.
If funny + confidence meant I'd have no problems attracting women, then I wouldn't be here complaining about dating and meeting people. Too bad I know that's a damn like because it takes much more than just 2 things to make it work. Apparently for me, it takes infinitely more.
If funny + confidence meant I'd have no problems attracting women, then I wouldn't be here complaining about dating and meeting people. Too bad I know that's a damn like because it takes much more than just 2 things to make it work. Apparently for me, it takes infinitely more.
IMHO, I believe men were more easily seen as captivating by women when they did not have ambivalence about expressing traditionally masculine traits (protectiveness, chivalry, Dudley-Do-Right goodness, honesty, and sincerity)
Women who have been disappointed/"burned" in love are no different than men this has happened to. People are looking for someone who is for real, who won't let them down....who is not hyper-focused on what you "bring to the table" I say, bring your best to the table, look for a woman with generous, honest tendencies who loves and respects home and family...and trust that what she brings to the table with be GOOD...and ENOUGH for you.
These days women are developing complexes about being "enough" for a man they desire. The question themselves...as in, "I know I'm middle aged, but will he find me attractive anyway?" And they have to worry about being independent enough, but not TOO independent.
Sometimes I think I'm still single because men look at me and see a lot that they like..but they still want me to be 25 years old. I can't be that. I've already been that.
Strong and masculine but not a "thug"; honest, generous, loving, godly, clear on what he wants and what he is looking for in a relationship and communicative about his intentions. healthy, affectionate, intelligent, funny, interested in everything...(like me) attractive enough for me to feel physical chemistry with him, and his temperament well matched to mine. Has the basics of being a responsible adult in order.
If funny + confidence meant I'd have no problems attracting women, then I wouldn't be here complaining about dating and meeting people. Too bad I know that's a damn like because it takes much more than just 2 things to make it work. Apparently for me, it takes infinitely more.
The whe just be confident thing is such bs..it doesn't make an unattractive guy attractive..if you're funny and confident but women don't find you physically appealing you're getting friendzoned
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