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What would probably help the most is if you learned how to relax and take it easy.
It's a lot harder to meet potential relationships/sex partners/people in general if you constantly feel like you're not good enough and need to act in any way other than how you feel at any given moment.
I've taken martial arts and however that it is terrifying, so far I find trying to improve my skills with women more terrifying.
This is an excellent way to get in shape and in tune with "balance" and discipline.
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I also love women like only a poet would.
This is terrible. Your mind is NOT in the right place because you're constantly placing them higher than you. With this mindset, you will always fail and you won't know why. It's blunt but it's the truth. Women are not the center of the universe nor do you need them to "survive", you only need yourself.
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So far I've only been doing this for a few weeks but to get over my fear sexually I paid for time over skype and with a masseuse. Other things I was thinking would help would be escorts, dance lessons, going out dancing, bars, trying to just hold conversations / flirt with random girls, ask girls out, use craigslist to see if any girls would spend time / befriend me in just the spirit to help. Also I thought taking improv, comedy, acting, and public speaking classes might help (although those may or may not be pretty hardcore).
If you were designing a course in improving your skills with women what are some exercises you would assign? How would you grade if it was a success or not?
If you want to get an idea about me watch the movie zero theorem, that might as well be me.
All of these are excellent, except wasting money on "refining your skills." And instead of talking to strictly females, talk to EVERYONE. Part of the reason why some men are so successful with women is because they are simply charismatic.
As for the women part, I would highly advise only using them for your own charismatic practice. You need to refine a positive attitude before you engage in any sort of relationship. Your mind is not ready, in my opinion, for this type of connection. You need to focus on yourself and discover your fullest potential before even touching anybody else's life.
I think my two biggest complications is I have a mild case of aspergers which manifests as having a low amount of social energy and having trouble reading cues. Also I'll (guess?) come off as angry if I am in fact happy. The other major issue is I have an empty block of my life in between middle school and high school. Before I moved to that small town I actually had a very normal life, girlfriends, friends, out doing stuff etc... But the new small town was (7?) years of isolation. I think people can either see the nightmare or absence of that and it scares them, but I still see myself as a continuation of the person before that.
This is terrible. Your mind is NOT in the right place because you're constantly placing them higher than you. With this mindset, you will always fail and you won't know why. It's blunt but it's the truth. Women are not the center of the universe nor do you need them to "survive", you only need yourself.
Actually this was a trend that makes sense now... I either need to not love or wait until sex. Love is seeming to be a major turn off to women.
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All of these are excellent, except wasting money on "refining your skills." And instead of talking to strictly females, talk to EVERYONE. Part of the reason why some men are so successful with women is because they are simply charismatic.
Surprisingly I already knew that the problem was really infact with everyone but I forgot it almost ten years ago. Impressive that you dug that out.
Just took a tango class... can't believe how easy it was. I can't believe I feel like I'm starting to figure this out without needing to change myself. I definitely recommend taking dancing classes.
Be really good at something. If you play the guitar, play it well. If you are on a local softball team , hit home runs. If you surf, surf well and win trophys. Earn the respect and admiration of others for your talent or skill and you'll be a chick magnet.
I speak as a woman. Those are the types of things that I find irresistible.
Join a hobbie where there are females and males.You have to interact with them or partner up on a project.Flirt a little, get to know them, listen to them, have comical aspects, and let them feel comfortable around you.Women want trust.
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