Should I suggest another first date activity? (dating, man, younger)
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Basically I met someone cute online, who seems great so far. He asked me out for next week, but that's not the problem. He said he wants to take me surfing, but due to a past near-drowning incident, I totally don't want to do this. Is it okay to suggest another date location or is that rude?? Otherwise I would have to turn him down. I would much rather just meet for coffee or something casual first anyways. I'm working on my water issues and making progress, but I'm also a terrible swimmer so I think for safety sake, it's just better that I avoid intense oceanic activities for the time being lol. I feel weird disclosing this to someone I don't know yet, and I also worry he might think I'm high maintenance or something for not wanting to do it..
If someone asks you out and suggests a location or activity, but you don't like it, is it okay to suggest doing something else or should you just turn it down? Gosh I hate dating lol.
If someone asks you out and suggests a location or activity, but you don't like it, is it okay to suggest doing something else or should you just turn it down? Gosh I hate dating lol.
Unless you mentioned on your online profile that you like surfing, you should just tell the dude about your near death experience and come up with an alternative first date option. Easy peasy. Its not something to "turn him down" over, just come up with a different plan.
Haha! No, definitely not a surfing website! And nothing in my profile about enjoying water whatsoever. But I live on the coast so it's pretty common for people to grow up doing water sports and whatnot here. A lot of younger guys want to do that stuff for dates but then think you're high maintenance if you don't like that kind of thing. I'll make another suggestion and see what he says. If he's one of those people who's in the water 24/7, I'd rather find that out now cause that would be a no-go!
Basically I met someone cute online, who seems great so far. He asked me out for next week, but that's not the problem. He said he wants to take me surfing, but due to a past near-drowning incident, I totally don't want to do this. Is it okay to suggest another date location or is that rude?? Otherwise I would have to turn him down. I would much rather just meet for coffee or something casual first anyways. I'm working on my water issues and making progress, but I'm also a terrible swimmer so I think for safety sake, it's just better that I avoid intense oceanic activities for the time being lol. I feel weird disclosing this to someone I don't know yet, and I also worry he might think I'm high maintenance or something for not wanting to do it..
If someone asks you out and suggests a location or activity, but you don't like it, is it okay to suggest doing something else or should you just turn it down? Gosh I hate dating lol.
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Originally Posted by Raena77
Dating can be a pain. Just be honest and tell him. If he thinks otherwise of you,It's not meant to be.
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Originally Posted by metamorphosis
Yep, I'd make a couple other suggestions. If he doesn't understand why you feel the way you do, it's best to know that now.
Why does he think you would even be good at surfing? Did you meet him on a surfing website?
Did I just say that? Surfing? Website? OMG, LOL
yep, its perfectly fine to suggest an alternate date activity. and if he asks why, just be honest with him.
when ever i ask someone out for the first time, i ask then where they would like to go, with rare exception.
Basically I met someone cute online, who seems great so far. He asked me out for next week, but that's not the problem. He said he wants to take me surfing, but due to a past near-drowning incident, I totally don't want to do this. Is it okay to suggest another date location or is that rude?? Otherwise I would have to turn him down. I would much rather just meet for coffee or something casual first anyways. I'm working on my water issues and making progress, but I'm also a terrible swimmer so I think for safety sake, it's just better that I avoid intense oceanic activities for the time being lol. I feel weird disclosing this to someone I don't know yet, and I also worry he might think I'm high maintenance or something for not wanting to do it..
If someone asks you out and suggests a location or activity, but you don't like it, is it okay to suggest doing something else or should you just turn it down? Gosh I hate dating lol.
Just tell him you don't swim that well and you would prefer to hold off on the ocean activities until you are more secure with your swimming abilities.
Then suggest meeting for a milkshake somewhere, two straws.
OP , its perfectly normal to request some other type of meeting. Never do anything where you are that uncomfortable. The first date is not really a date. Its meeting the person. A real man will meet you in the middle where you both are comfortable.
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