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As I posted some time back, my wife has gone back home.
She only took a few things with her - her laptop, phone, some clothes. But she left a lot of her other things. I believe that the stuff she left behind has sentimental value (her grandmother's old dishes, family photos, etc.)
So I decided, I'm going to just pack up her things and bring them out to her. A couple of my friends advised me not to: "She left it behind...it's yours." Or, "Throw it all in the trash!" You know what? She might have been wrong for the way she split, but it would be just as wrong on my part to NOT bring her her things. Two wrongs don't make a right, and I feel that by my bringing her belongings out to her, I'm being the honest and mature one.
I did exactly what you are thinking of. My ex-husband left me and ended up leaving the house with a lot of stuff left behind (including his grandfather's WW2 medals, photos, and other family heirlooms). I packed them up, but I didn't bring them to him. I just told them I had them and to come get them. Then I handed it all over to him. I would say you shouldn't go out of your way to deliver things, but let her know she can come get them.
It's better to be able to sleep well knowing one did the best thing/took the high road than to have a moment of revengeful pleasure and then have to live with yourself later.
I did exactly what you are thinking of. My ex-husband left me and ended up leaving the house with a lot of stuff left behind (including his grandfather's WW2 medals, photos, and other family heirlooms). I packed them up, but I didn't bring them to him. I just told them I had them and to come get them. Then I handed it all over to him. I would say you shouldn't go out of your way to deliver things, but let her know she can come get them.
It's better to be able to sleep well knowing one did the best thing/took the high road than to have a moment of revengeful pleasure and then have to live with yourself later.
^^^This.
I did the same thing when my ex-husband left. I packed up every last thing of his and put it all in the garage. He still had a garage key so he was able to come and get it and I didn't have to be there to deal with him. He did leave behind two bags of shoes and clothes that I discovered 2 years later, so I donated those to charity.
No matter what he did and how I felt, I absolutely could not destroy or otherwise get rid of his belongings. There is no satisfaction in that, and that would have made me no better than him. The opposite of love is not hate.
As I posted some time back, my wife has gone back home.
She only took a few things with her - her laptop, phone, some clothes. But she left a lot of her other things. I believe that the stuff she left behind has sentimental value (her grandmother's old dishes, family photos, etc.)
So I decided, I'm going to just pack up her things and bring them out to her. A couple of my friends advised me not to: "She left it behind...it's yours." Or, "Throw it all in the trash!" You know what? She might have been wrong for the way she split, but it would be just as wrong on my part to NOT bring her her things. Two wrongs don't make a right, and I feel that by my bringing her belongings out to her, I'm being the honest and mature one.
She left. You are not obligated to bring those things to her. If they mean that much to her, let her make arrangements to have them picked up. Box everything up neatly and if you have a garage or attic, just put the boxes there. Frankly, you're not even obligated to box the stuff up. I would have someone come over to take a video of you putting her things in a box just that way she can't say anything is missing.
As I posted some time back, my wife has gone back home.
She only took a few things with her - her laptop, phone, some clothes. But she left a lot of her other things. I believe that the stuff she left behind has sentimental value (her grandmother's old dishes, family photos, etc.)
So I decided, I'm going to just pack up her things and bring them out to her. A couple of my friends advised me not to: "She left it behind...it's yours." Or, "Throw it all in the trash!" You know what? She might have been wrong for the way she split, but it would be just as wrong on my part to NOT bring her her things. Two wrongs don't make a right, and I feel that by my bringing her belongings out to her, I'm being the honest and mature one.
Make her sorry butt come back and get it. Why would you bring it to her?
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