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I think that when these thoughts creep into your mind you need to remember that she's not with that man any longer- if she wanted to be, she would not be with you.
And I understand what you're trying to express in your feelings- and the sense of confusion you have. It's hard to put that into words- and it does make you question your values- but I agree that it's more about your insecurity and less about the ex being a man of color.
Your feelings are quite common. Due to urban myths, the white man often feels he doesn't measure up to the black man. It is a myth and you have no reason to be conserned.
Some men are hung up on any past relationships their girlfriends had. The racial component probably has no bearing.
As others have said, it's a mistake to discuss or dwell on past relationships...her's are not your business. So, knock it off.
If you rock her boat when the lights go off (or stays on) then i dont see what the problem is.
If your still hung up on the measurement thing then there are other ways to counter those insecurities, perhaps you can buy something to help things along, coupled with some creative and sponteneous activities?
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