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I’ve had a FWB guy for a year now. He knows that I want something more and he doesn’t right now. But we talk everyday and after sex he always wants me to rub on him until he falls asleep. Some nights he wants me to spend the night with him. I have developed strong feelings for him and he is aware of them. He says that my feelings for him doesn’t bother him and I shouldn’t stop telling him How I feel. Idk what to do? Should I just ride it out?
Old thread resurrected....
There's no "one size fits all" for FWB. I've had FWBs with whom we've cuddled after sex; one or two others where we just got up, got dressed and parted ways after the deed. It really depends on the person.
FWB isn't really my deal, so I don't get how it works. But it does seem like it would be confusing to have a no strings relationship and then start cuddling sometimes. So you tell me, those of you with FWB, do you cuddle after you hangout with your "friend?"
I have FWB and cuddle. Nothing wrong with holding someone in your arms.
FWB doesn't mean no intimacy at all. It means both people agree that it's best to remain single.
I’ve had a FWB guy for a year now. He knows that I want something more and he doesn’t right now. But we talk everyday and after sex he always wants me to rub on him until he falls asleep. Some nights he wants me to spend the night with him. I have developed strong feelings for him and he is aware of them. He says that my feelings for him doesn’t bother him and I shouldn’t stop telling him How I feel. Idk what to do? Should I just ride it out?
This is exactly what I was looking for and hoping for, with a FWB. Sorry you aren't having a great time with this.
I have an unusual philosophy that all elements of relationships should be broken out and handled separately. I don't believe that if you FEEL something, you have to DO something about it, or that your feelings ought to entitle you to demand anything from anyone. You feel things? Cool. Feel them. Doesn't mean you've got to have a "more" in the material sense of committing to each other, moving in together, building a life, picking out china. Doesn't mean you've got a right to demand he feel the things either, since you can't control anyone but yourself anyhow.
The problem I used to run into, is if I felt something, and wanted to say "Hey, so mmm yeah, I'm feelin' a feel. It's nice man. Thanks." then the dude would go "OMG SHE WANTS BABIES GET OUT." And I'm like "what...no..." but it's too late.
You have what I wanted, a guy who is like "thanks" and that's that. Unfortunately, you're not on that page. You think that the feel, necessitates the "more." All I can say is if you're invested in needing things he isn't able or willing to give, then you might want to walk away. It's all like negotiation, like an episode of Pawn Stars or something, offer and counter-offer, but at the end of the day if one person has requirements the other won't meet, then a deal can't be made and somebody needs to take their vintage, mint-in-box collector's edition booty and walk away from the bargaining table.
I’ve had a FWB guy for a year now. He knows that I want something more and he doesn’t right now. But we talk everyday and after sex he always wants me to rub on him until he falls asleep. Some nights he wants me to spend the night with him. I have developed strong feelings for him and he is aware of them. He says that my feelings for him doesn’t bother him and I shouldn’t stop telling him How I feel. Idk what to do? Should I just ride it out?
This isn't a FWB situation, this is a situation where some dude is getting his without any kind of work or effort on his part. You're sitting there pining for the guy hoping and waiting for him meanwhile some dude who could possibly be worshipping the ground you walk on or at least seriously wants you is out there........
Get some dignity and move on.... all of this is null and void if you're just looking to get your groove on of course... but it ain't sounding like that there is the situation.
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This isn't a FWB situation, this is a situation where some dude is getting his without any kind of work or effort on his part. You're sitting there pining for the guy hoping and waiting for him meanwhile some dude who could possibly be worshipping the ground you walk on or at least seriously wants you is out there........
Yup, this person is not acting like a friend.
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