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Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Wow. I understand--even though I don't agree with the negative responses.
For me, the emphasis is on how it taught me to love unconditionally, how to accept love, how to recognize it from infatuation....lust...and maybe, just maybe, what I learned from the love I lost will lead me to love again. I feel for anyone who doesn't have the courage to love like that. It's at top of my list of most tragic things in life.
Wow. I understand--even though I don't agree with the negative responses.
For me, the emphasis is on how it taught me to love unconditionally, how to accept love, how to recognize it from infatuation....lust...and maybe, just maybe, what I learned from the love I lost will lead me to love again. I feel for anyone who doesn't have the courage to love like that. It's at top of my list of most tragic things in life.
Why pity us? Save the pity for someone who deserves it like a child with cancer or a soldier who lost a limb.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Originally Posted by Ro2113
Why pity us? Save the pity for someone who deserves it like a child with cancer or a soldier who lost a limb.
Where does it say pity? I said 'feel for'. That's something you do when you can relate to someone else's experiences. It's called empathy. Not sympathy.
Where does it say pity? I said 'feel for'. That's something you do when you can relate to someone else's experiences. It's called empathy. Not sympathy.
I didn't mean to be disrespectful. Just sayin' though.
I'm so relieved I don't agree with this. I'd be a poor person indeed if I'd never loved or been loved but not knowing what you're missing doesn't make it better or easier. It just means you never got to feel what it was like and you get to leave this life never having experienced the greatest thing on earth--true, unconditional love.
Here's why; I came from an abused childhood. I had boyfriends as a teen that I thought I was in love with but never experienced real, true, unconditional love til I was 18. Suddenly, I knew what it felt like to be loved. I thought it was supposed to be the way it was growing up and as a teen. I had no idea it could be the way it is when it's real. I felt loved for the first time in my life. That ended due to circumstances beyond our control, but I never forgot how it could be. It made me a better person. I showed me how to love others in my life better and how to love unconditionally. I'd go through it all over again--even the loss part--just to experience it once more. And I am. And I may lose again. But it's worth every bit of risk.
I can see where you're coming from with this. I would like to amend my previous statement- Never loving or being loved at all could hurt just as badly as loving someone and losing them somehow. I did neglect to consider the fact that even when love isn't concerned, the feeling of "something is missing" can happen... so yeah. Especially in this day and age, when all you ever see on the tube is people who are in relationships, or are even just dating or (a few cuts below that) "hooking up." (ugh)
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Originally Posted by justthe6ofus
I guess I'm a pessimist because I would rather not go through the loss. I know I don't recover well from it.
although I have never been in love I would say it is better to have loved. I have been close several times but I either ruin it or fail to take thdRe opportunity. I hope someday to get it right.
Wow. I understand--even though I don't agree with the negative responses.
Seeing that a lot of us here have been hurt in the past I guess to some extent we become gunshy so to speak. Sure those who haven't loved yet don't know understand the heartbreak the rest of us has. We tend to remember those times we've had our heart broken yet at the same time we remember those we've loved as well.
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