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I've literally seen 100s and 100s of men, many good looking/cool guys who are able to have success in real life, say that the only way they got any responses at all online is to go after women way less attractive than themselves. That really seems to be the only way to succeed as a man in OLD - if you're good looking, fit, young, successful, go after 35 year old overweight moms
This has essentially been my experience. I'm not going for overweight moms. But the vast majority of girls who are responsive (only after I initiate) aren't that attractive or fit.
I'm sure the attractive and slightly-attractive women get absolutely bombarded by every guy imaginable though. Therefore, it probably crowds out a good portion of the decent male population (those who actually want more than just a hook up).
I've literally seen 100s and 100s of men, many good looking/cool guys who are able to have success in real life, say that the only way they got any responses at all online is to go after women way less attractive than themselves. That really seems to be the only way to succeed as a man in OLD - if you're good looking, fit, young, successful, go after 35 year old overweight moms
What causes the monstrous disparity?
I don't think there is such a disparity. I am very attractive for my age with a good body to boot, and I date men who are less attractive than I am quite often. I will have a coffee or drink meet with just about anyone local who seems interesting and normal. Is there a trusted friend or family member who can critique your profile and pics for you, maybe there is something in there that you don't see that is making women not responsive to you?
It's also been my experience when I was online dating. I would say 80% are 30+ overweight single moms. It was hard to find a woman around my age that didn't have 1-3 kids 20-30lbs overweight.
My online dating experience was lots of guys spamming me with "hi! how r u" and every guy that could actually construct a sentence was looking for a third (so to speak), was crazier than a bag of cats, or if he was normal figured I was his soul mate and wanted to talk marriage after a couple of dates (moved way, way too fast for me). Didn't help that I rather get to know a man first, figure out if I like him, THEN date. I never could get the hang of the whole "date a stranger" thing. So I stopped OLD. Of course, I think online dating experience varies by age, area, and site you are on too.
I have success in real life and in the little bit of online dating I've done, had no results. I asked some semi-attractive women how many emails they get daily and they said it's sometimes hundreds, usually at least a hundred a day.
That's just insane. I'll stick to in person, works better. Even the most approachable attractive woman can't be getting approached in person more then a dozen times a day, I'll take that over a few hundred. Plus I feel like my bio comes off as made up or exaggerated even though it isn't, so either I neuter myself and blend in with the masses or come off as fake or full-o-myself. I'm kind of awesome like that I guess, lol!
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