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Old 08-12-2014, 05:43 PM
 
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has anybody ever been able to figure this out?


I've literally seen 100s and 100s of men, many good looking/cool guys who are able to have success in real life, say that the only way they got any responses at all online is to go after women way less attractive than themselves. That really seems to be the only way to succeed as a man in OLD - if you're good looking, fit, young, successful, go after 35 year old overweight moms


What causes the monstrous disparity?
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Old 08-12-2014, 05:46 PM
 
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Could just be that women are just looking to see how many men message them.

Could be that there are men impersonating women online. I'm not sure how accurate that is, but I think there's some statistic out there or something.

Could be inactive accounts that are still on the website.
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Old 08-12-2014, 05:47 PM
 
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Could just be that women are just looking to see how many men message them.

Could be that there are men impersonating women online. I'm not sure how accurate that is, but I think there's some statistic out there or something.

Could be inactive accounts that are still on the website.
but why are all these issues gender specific?


Why are most online dating sites overflowing with men? don't men and women both want to meet someone equally?
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Old 08-12-2014, 05:49 PM
 
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This has essentially been my experience. I'm not going for overweight moms. But the vast majority of girls who are responsive (only after I initiate) aren't that attractive or fit.

I'm sure the attractive and slightly-attractive women get absolutely bombarded by every guy imaginable though. Therefore, it probably crowds out a good portion of the decent male population (those who actually want more than just a hook up).
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Old 08-12-2014, 05:56 PM
 
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has anybody ever been able to figure this out?


I've literally seen 100s and 100s of men, many good looking/cool guys who are able to have success in real life, say that the only way they got any responses at all online is to go after women way less attractive than themselves. That really seems to be the only way to succeed as a man in OLD - if you're good looking, fit, young, successful, go after 35 year old overweight moms


What causes the monstrous disparity?
I don't think there is such a disparity. I am very attractive for my age with a good body to boot, and I date men who are less attractive than I am quite often. I will have a coffee or drink meet with just about anyone local who seems interesting and normal. Is there a trusted friend or family member who can critique your profile and pics for you, maybe there is something in there that you don't see that is making women not responsive to you?
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Old 08-12-2014, 06:08 PM
 
Location: SacTown
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It's also been my experience when I was online dating. I would say 80% are 30+ overweight single moms. It was hard to find a woman around my age that didn't have 1-3 kids 20-30lbs overweight.
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Old 08-12-2014, 06:22 PM
 
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My online dating experience was lots of guys spamming me with "hi! how r u" and every guy that could actually construct a sentence was looking for a third (so to speak), was crazier than a bag of cats, or if he was normal figured I was his soul mate and wanted to talk marriage after a couple of dates (moved way, way too fast for me). Didn't help that I rather get to know a man first, figure out if I like him, THEN date. I never could get the hang of the whole "date a stranger" thing. So I stopped OLD. Of course, I think online dating experience varies by age, area, and site you are on too.
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Old 08-12-2014, 06:41 PM
 
Location: The Hall of Justice
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Hundreds and hundreds? Wow, you are a popular dude. And none of those guys can hook you up?

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but why are all these issues gender specific?
Supply and demand.

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Why are most online dating sites overflowing with men? don't men and women both want to meet someone equally?
No. Men usually outnumber women anywhere people are looking to meet romantically. I've heard online dating is a particular sausage fest.
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Old 08-12-2014, 06:44 PM
 
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Could be inactive accounts that are still on the website.
This is what I believe to be true. Or, they are fake to give the sense of hope.
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Old 08-12-2014, 06:46 PM
 
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I have success in real life and in the little bit of online dating I've done, had no results. I asked some semi-attractive women how many emails they get daily and they said it's sometimes hundreds, usually at least a hundred a day.

That's just insane. I'll stick to in person, works better. Even the most approachable attractive woman can't be getting approached in person more then a dozen times a day, I'll take that over a few hundred. Plus I feel like my bio comes off as made up or exaggerated even though it isn't, so either I neuter myself and blend in with the masses or come off as fake or full-o-myself. I'm kind of awesome like that I guess, lol!
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