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I have never had bad sex with a person turn into good sex. I have however, had great sex turn into really really bad sex and I figured it was a cue the relationship was stale or maybe was at a dead-end. Great sex turned bad, for me, has always been an indicator that something was going wrong with the relationship.
Honestly can't say I ever had bad sex. If you truly care / love each other , proper communication can usually take care of any problem.
My X wife is a prime example. She was 18 very inexperienced when we met , pretty uptight about sex. She came a long way in a short amount of time. I took it on as a challenge and it paid off.
Also , my advice to never tell someone they are bad a sex,
I agree with this.
I have to be really into the person and know them well before getting intimate..
First-time awkwardness is completely different from straight-up bad sex, though.
Once you get over the jitters/nerves/self-consciousness/getting to know you, if what is left is continually, consistently bad, it cannot be fixed because you just are not a good match. It becomes in itself a turnoff.
Me and my BF went through that but now the sex is great and hard to believe he inexperienced some times.
Since most of my sex has been one night stands, I would have to answer no. But with the girls I had relations with, the sex was always fair/good, but mostly because i liked them.
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No. Bad sex has been made into ok sex. Ok sex into good sex. But never bad sex into great sex. Bad sex (outside of drunken hookups) only seems to really happen when two people aren't compatible sexually, or one isn't in the least bit sensual.
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They think the kind of sex I like is too messy!
I'm trying to picture how this could even be the case? As in "yes dear, you should invest in a waterproof mattress cover" messy? Well, huh, can't see that is being an issue.
I have never been successful in making a non-sexually compatible partner compatible with me. I tried telling them what I liked, heck even showing it to them directly, but some people just don't have the confidence to change up when you ask them to change the way they do things (they get offended that I didn't like it "their" way) or, and this is most common I think, just not perceptive enough.
I am also quite uninhibited and like it a bit on the aggressive side, but have been with very passive or self-conscious men, and that just is never going to work for me. Don't ask me if I'll get on top, scoop me up and put me there.
Whenever I see people posting that bad sex can be fixed by communication, I kind of figure they don't know what they are talking about. It's not like good sex involves learning specific physical skills. It's about mindset and preferences being compatible.
I think if partners are willing to be open and communicate a lot of areas in the relationship can improve tremendously.
The key is being open and honest and freely showing or telling the other what is liked, disliked or will be compromised on.
This goes with other areas as well, not just the intimate part of your relationship.
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