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Don't worry OP. It's just like that for some. I have never dated either, and it doesn't help that most of the people around me are matched up-with partner's they actually like.
I am not 28 yet, but close enough. I'll probably still be single at 28 at the rate things are going though.
It happens. Dating is really a luck game. In a sense that you can show interest in people, and put yourself out there. But whether your feelings are returned is the luck part. The other party could think you're ugly, and if not that, will they think you're a spaz in some way.
Sometimes it's one-sided alot before you get any matches. So, you just have to put yourself out to meet people, look nice, let people see you, and chat some up. Maybe try online dating if all else fails. Maybe a paid sight-may be better than the free ones.
Nonsense I'm fat and dated.Work on your self esteem.
Ditto. I was one of the bigger girls in my high school and on, and have continued to have a great love life. Even when I went through chemo right out of college and gained 60 pounds in 6 months, had a swollen face, and lost my hair - I dated the entire time.
It's a self esteem thing. I recommend therapy to build your self esteem and make yourself an emotionally healthy person to pursue a relationship with.
I don't think dating is a luck game or anything like that - sure a bit of luck is involved, but it isn't the primary thing.
I'm a later bloomer as well (25) and i've just started dating in the past few months. I've had some success (got to 3 dates with one person and 5 with another one) but still have a-lot of work to do. But it's all very educational and i've learned a-lot.
One thing I will say is that this is one of those things where you really do need to get as much practice as possible. Try to go on as many first dates as you can to work on your "first date style". People are always saying be yourself and that's true to an extent, but let's be honest, the beginning of dating is all about putting your best self forward. In order to do that, you need to know what your good qualities are and how people react to those things. You will only ever know by practice.
As an introvert, i've found online dating to be very useful for a few reasons. One, I (and I think this is the case with all introverts) am better at expressing myself in writing them words. So being able to make the first move in writing is really important here. Two, it helps introduce yourself to so many more women then you normally would on a night out. Think about it. If you go out normally, you can go to a bar and maybe see 10-20 single women in an hour? If you spend an hour on Match.com, you can probably scan 40-50 profiles and probably find 5-6 that really catch your eye.
Also, I am finding out that it's really important to get out of this mentality that you need to do something by a certain time. I've been struggling with this as well a bit, but i'm slowly learning to get over it. Just let things proceed as they naturally would. Don't think that you absolutely have to have sex by the time you're 30 - having this on your conscious is only going to make the dating experience that much more stressful. Try and have as much fun as possible and always analyze how your dates went when you get home. That way you can identify what worked well and what you need to improve on next time. Now, most people are going to say i'm crazy for recommending this, but well, let's be honest here, we're playing catch up to the rest of the world. We need to work harder then everybody else in order to reach their dating level and to do that we're going to need to invest more time and energy into the whole process. If you're willing to do that, then you can definitely find success.
Sounds like you've never had anxiety issues. Besides, the OP's been kicked off.
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