The isolated 'gay' going straight (friends, therapist, looking, relations)
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Why in god's green Earth would you want to be straight? Men are easier to deal with, are much more likely to have the exact same hobbies/interests, earn more money $$ (don't have to take time off for pregnancy) and gay dating is so much easier than straight dating. Gay dating is completely equal as well - none of this nonsense where a decent looking woman can post a profile online and have more suitors in 5 seconds than any straight guy could have in 5 years.
Why in god's green Earth would you want to be straight? Men are easier to deal with, are much more likely to have the exact same hobbies/interests, earn more money $$ (don't have to take time off for pregnancy) and gay dating is so much easier than straight dating. Gay dating is completely equal as well - none of this nonsense where a decent looking woman can post a profile online and have more suitors in 5 seconds than any straight guy could have in 5 years.
Yeah you're probably right, I need to keep my options open. I'd like to find a man with similar interests, such as hunting, fishing, working out, living on a dirt road, etc.,
Yeah you're probably right, I need to keep my options open. I'd like to find a man with similar interests, such as hunting, fishing, working out, living on a dirt road, etc.,
several gay men have approached me at various places
They're always very nice and very flattering towards me. I have a lot of respect for the gay community because of that. I've gotten more attention from gay men than straight women by a big margin
Oh please! Your husband is definitely gay. I bet he is unhappy with you. I bet he cheats on you all the time, as do most men!
I have a clue what I'm doing. I have higher standards than you. Now hurry up and fix yourself a massive plate and stuff it all down your throat.
Im so confused OP. You post that women are bad and then you post that men are bad. Which one is it?
Most women are not Bi and most men dont cheat. You arent sure which way is up because it sounds like your family, church and society are telling you different things. If youre gay, be gay. if youre bi, be bi. If youre straight be that....Its one way, not picking a flavor of ice cream which can change with your mood.
I'm 26 and have always been attracted to men, I've never been with a man though. Not even once. Only been with a woman. I've never been in a relationship at all, no love, all alone, cold, blahhhh! I act straight, I'm a good looking "country boy" and no one knows anything about my interest. I keep it to myself. I workout, I live healthy, I mind my business, etc.,
I've been to the gay bars, and saw how problematic the lifestyle was, I tried to have other friends from that community and man did they bring me so much drama, I tried that scene out when I was 19 and removed myself from it. And no I didn't get with anyone, I was too picky. All of those "friends" from 2007 have all since passed away, as a result of the most common virus that plagues the community. Its sad. But they brought it upon themselves based upon their own choices.
I'm at this point where I'm now 26 and realizing that this fantasy that mainstream society is portraying the gay lifestyle as, isn't actually real. I never saw anyone settling down or trying to get married. Every dating site I tried for, no one was there for love/dates. SO I'M THINKING ABOUT GETTING ME A WOMAN! A man cant give me kids, or commit or be loyal. All I ever saw was my female friends getting cheated on and crying, used, abused and treated poorly. I'm not a mean guy. I have no intentions of being hurt, I just want someone to spend my life with, have a family. So I guess I think women are safer? Unfortunately all I'm reading lately is that women cheat, lie, steal, blah, blah, blah, is this true? Should I be worried? And as for you women out there, I have a question, since I never dated or did anything with a man, should I tell my future GF that I am attracted to men? Or should I bury this as a piece of my past and move on? How would it make you ladies feel?
You seriously sound like a confused teenager. Dude, if you like men go after men and if you like women go after women. Don't let society or anyone else tell you to think, or do, that you enjoy.
I'm 26 and have always been attracted to men, I've never been with a man though. Not even once. Only been with a woman. I've never been in a relationship at all, no love, all alone, cold, blahhhh! I act straight, I'm a good looking "country boy" and no one knows anything about my interest. I keep it to myself. I workout, I live healthy, I mind my business, etc.,
I've been to the gay bars, and saw how problematic the lifestyle was, I tried to have other friends from that community and man did they bring me so much drama, I tried that scene out when I was 19 and removed myself from it. And no I didn't get with anyone, I was too picky. All of those "friends" from 2007 have all since passed away, as a result of the most common virus that plagues the community. Its sad. But they brought it upon themselves based upon their own choices.
I'm at this point where I'm now 26 and realizing that this fantasy that mainstream society is portraying the gay lifestyle as, isn't actually real. I never saw anyone settling down or trying to get married. Every dating site I tried for, no one was there for love/dates. SO I'M THINKING ABOUT GETTING ME A WOMAN! A man cant give me kids, or commit or be loyal. All I ever saw was my female friends getting cheated on and crying, used, abused and treated poorly. I'm not a mean guy. I have no intentions of being hurt, I just want someone to spend my life with, have a family. So I guess I think women are safer? Unfortunately all I'm reading lately is that women cheat, lie, steal, blah, blah, blah, is this true? Should I be worried? And as for you women out there, I have a question, since I never dated or did anything with a man, should I tell my future GF that I am attracted to men? Or should I bury this as a piece of my past and move on? How would it make you ladies feel?
Of course it is true, women are human just like men and both genders do the same stupid childish things.
Only time will tell if you will get hurt and honestly you really can't avoid it no matter who your partner is (male or female).
Don't worry with the "what if", live your life, find someone who loves you that you love, have a family, have a wonderful life together and choose later if you want to tell your girlfriend/wife/partner about your attraction to men.
I can't honestly tell you how it would make me feel, no man I have ever known has been attracted to men as far as I know. If they were attracted to men they never told me about it or gave any indication they were.
I'm 26 and have always been attracted to men, I've never been with a man though. Not even once. Only been with a woman. I've never been in a relationship at all, no love, all alone, cold, blahhhh! I act straight, I'm a good looking "country boy" and no one knows anything about my interest. I keep it to myself. I workout, I live healthy, I mind my business, etc.,
I've been to the gay bars, and saw how problematic the lifestyle was, I tried to have other friends from that community and man did they bring me so much drama, I tried that scene out when I was 19 and removed myself from it. And no I didn't get with anyone, I was too picky. All of those "friends" from 2007 have all since passed away, as a result of the most common virus that plagues the community. Its sad. But they brought it upon themselves based upon their own choices.
I'm at this point where I'm now 26 and realizing that this fantasy that mainstream society is portraying the gay lifestyle as, isn't actually real. I never saw anyone settling down or trying to get married. Every dating site I tried for, no one was there for love/dates. SO I'M THINKING ABOUT GETTING ME A WOMAN! A man cant give me kids, or commit or be loyal. All I ever saw was my female friends getting cheated on and crying, used, abused and treated poorly. I'm not a mean guy. I have no intentions of being hurt, I just want someone to spend my life with, have a family. So I guess I think women are safer? Unfortunately all I'm reading lately is that women cheat, lie, steal, blah, blah, blah, is this true? Should I be worried? And as for you women out there, I have a question, since I never dated or did anything with a man, should I tell my future GF that I am attracted to men? Or should I bury this as a piece of my past and move on? How would it make you ladies feel?
Something is definitely fishy about this post? First of all, you sound very shallow, and very inexperienced, particularly to be making such broad judgements. You can't judge the gay community by going to a local gay bar, no more than you can judge the "straight community" by going to a straight bar. There is not a specific "lifestyle" as you state. As far as being gay goes: you don't choose it, it chooses you. So, if you want to complicate your life for real, than pretend to be straight. If you are gay, it won't go away, and you won't be happy with a woman, as you intend.
Men can commit and be loyal, you are clearly hanging out with the wrong crowd. You claim to be picky, so if you keep looking at the hot young college jocks, then yeh, you probably are going to get a fair share of guys not interested in settling down. Consider what's on the inside a bit more than what's on the outside. You're only 26, there is nothing wrong with considering a guy that's a bit older than you, particularly if you're looking for someone with maturity, they're more likely interested in a relationship.
As far as all these "friends" you indicate from 2007 that are no longer here, and got what they deserve...in your words. No wonder you're alone with that attitude. First of all, 2007 wasn't that long ago, and there are medications for such things. Also, many gay guys are promiscuous for the same reason straight people are promiscuous, which is usually because they are dysfunctional in some way, some are looking for love in all the wrong places, or with the wrong people, many are looking for attention or approval...again, hanging out with the wrong crowd. Nobody ever said being gay is easy, I've been out, longer than you've been alive. But, it is important to make the best of it, it's what you make of it.
OK OP, since you obviously hate women and don't care what you do to them and don't give a crap about the idea of wasting at least half of some poor woman's life, let me just remind you how expensive it is to get out of a marriage--esp one with kids. When you decide that you can't take it anymore or she catches you cheating, there will be a divorce and then your secret will be out. Just sayin.
I'm 26 and have always been attracted to men, I've never been with a man though. Not even once. Only been with a woman. I've never been in a relationship at all, no love, all alone, cold, blahhhh! I act straight, I'm a good looking "country boy" and no one knows anything about my interest. I keep it to myself. I workout, I live healthy, I mind my business, etc.,
I've been to the gay bars, and saw how problematic the lifestyle was, I tried to have other friends from that community and man did they bring me so much drama, I tried that scene out when I was 19 and removed myself from it. And no I didn't get with anyone, I was too picky. All of those "friends" from 2007 have all since passed away, as a result of the most common virus that plagues the community. Its sad. But they brought it upon themselves based upon their own choices.
I'm at this point where I'm now 26 and realizing that this fantasy that mainstream society is portraying the gay lifestyle as, isn't actually real. I never saw anyone settling down or trying to get married. Every dating site I tried for, no one was there for love/dates. SO I'M THINKING ABOUT GETTING ME A WOMAN! A man cant give me kids, or commit or be loyal. All I ever saw was my female friends getting cheated on and crying, used, abused and treated poorly. I'm not a mean guy. I have no intentions of being hurt, I just want someone to spend my life with, have a family. So I guess I think women are safer? Unfortunately all I'm reading lately is that women cheat, lie, steal, blah, blah, blah, is this true? Should I be worried? And as for you women out there, I have a question, since I never dated or did anything with a man, should I tell my future GF that I am attracted to men? Or should I bury this as a piece of my past and move on? How would it make you ladies feel?
You sound like me (minus the obvious misogynistic parts.) Straight dating seems easier than gay dating.
I must have missed this part. Yeah, people with HIV these days aren't dropping like flies like they were 25 years ago. It's still a very serious illness, but it is treatable.
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