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Just my opinion but.....
If you are afraid to approach a woman what makes you think that her approaching you would make it any easier?after reading these "approach" threads ad nauseam, I don't think the "approach" is the real issue, but serves as justification for NOT approaching. Are you saying that once the ice is broken.. You can let out your "Rico Suave"? Sorry, but I am pretty skeptical in these regards.... Just saying.
Nope, of course I don't, as there isn't anything contradictory.
Right, it is not a numbers game yet you yourself say that 75% of the women you chat up DONT fit you at all.
Riiiiigggghhhhtttt its not a numbers game.
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Originally Posted by timberline742
Listen to what? Just because you talk to someone doesn't guarantee anything. I'm a dude, but probably >75% of the times I chat someone up that I thought was cute and approachable, after a few minutes of talking I realized I didn't want to get with them in any way. I'm sure the numbers are the same or more from the other side when speaking to me.
People seem to have this freaking bizarre notion (on here) that if you get to the interaction phase you should be guaranteed some sort of outcome. Like talking to someone is such a huge damn step. Hey bro! You talked to a chick, you deserve to get your __ wet! Or at least a phone number. Hello, no, you don't deserve anything, you just talked to a person like normal humans do several times a day, every day.
In the quote you BASICALLY ADMITTED it's a numbers game. Talk to many girls, some will give you their number, some won't. Some will sleep with you and many won't.
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Originally Posted by techcrium
Right, it is not a numbers game yet you yourself say that 75% of the women you chat up DONT fit you at all.
Riiiiigggghhhhtttt its not a numbers game.
We have a walking contradiction right here.
What would make that a numbers game? You're looking for one. A shotgun approach is idiotic. Just like a job search, applying to everything and anything is not a good approach, and even with a very systematic targeted approach most opportunities don't work out. Still, they are significantly more effective.
Of course, if you're just talking to woman, doing it with an intent is a poor idea. You should be talking to people because you like to talk to people. If something comes of it, friends, dates, whatever, cool. If not, that's cool too. If there is intent, the only intent should be a good conversation. If you're going out and your entire intent is to meet a woman to date/sleep with, you're already in a losing situation. None of my in the wild relationship success has ever come from trying to get with a woman. It is just being a friendly person that likes to talk to people. Simple.
There is no contradiction. If you can think clearly, that is, which I suspect is your problem.
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Originally Posted by techcrium
In the quote you BASICALLY ADMITTED it's a numbers game. Talk to many girls, some will give you their number, some won't. Some will sleep with you and many won't.
I didn't do any such thing. You have a major reading comprehension problem. And I can't recall the last time I was given someones number and it has been a long time since I asked for one. I'm not looking to gain #s and that isn't why I talked to them. I've never gone out and talked to all that many people, male or female. I don't approach it as a numbers game. I just live life. Simple.
What would make that a numbers game? You're looking for one. A shotgun approach is idiotic. Just like a job search, applying to everything and anything is not a good approach, and even with a very systematic targeted approach most opportunities don't work out. Still, they are significantly more effective.
Of course, if you're just talking to woman, doing it with an intent is a poor idea. You should be talking to people because you like to talk to people. If something comes of it, friends, dates, whatever, cool. If not, that's cool too. If you're going out and your entire intent is to meet a woman to date/sleep with, you're already in a losing situation. None of my in the wild relationship success has ever come from trying to get with a woman. It is just being a friendly person that likes to talk to people. Simple.
There is no contradiction. If you can think clearly, that is, which I suspect is your problem.
No one said anything about intent or anything.
Going out to talk to people IMPLIES a numbers game. That is the definition of numbers game.
Go out and talk to as many women as you can.
A subset of those women will be receptive and give you their numbers
The amount of contradiction from all your posts is just hilarious.
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