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From a psychological standpoint, I would most say it's intimidation. The male psyche is usually driven with the ideal that they are the provider. If you already have what they want to provide for you, then it can become competitive. It's okay to be strong and independent but men want to know that they are still needed and that they play a vital role. It's not wrong to show vulnerability. Don't lay all your cards on the table right away. Really focus on the personality first. And if all else fails, try a different dating pool, maybe your current prospects are just not on your level.
I agree with you bebe, but not from an anxiety standpoint. The process of continuously meeting strangers does get a little old after a while. I also agree that I enjoy being able to support myself being single, but I don't always love it or enjoy it. I tolerate it, because I don't have another choice.
I think you just found the answer to your problem, bebe. People sense that and for many, it's a turn off. You sound like a smart young lady who has got it together but it's the anxiety that may be off-putting.
... In the past year I have just started to accept the fact that I might be alone for the rest of my life it scares me a bit because I have a very small family who I'm not particularly close to, and have no brothers or sisters.
despite how unfair it is and seemingly unrelated, to my understanding having little or no good family backing is simply going to outcast you. Normal people will make it your burden to compensate for them because they already have a huge pool of other normal people they can relate to and connect to easily.
despite how unfair it is and seemingly unrelated, to my understanding having little or no good family backing is simply going to outcast you. Normal people will make it your burden to compensate for them because they already have a huge pool of other normal people they can relate to and connect to easily.
I would think this would only matter if the person you're dating has a lot of family very nearby. The more the family is spread out I would imagine the less this matters.
despite how unfair it is and seemingly unrelated, to my understanding having little or no good family backing is simply going to outcast you. Normal people will make it your burden to compensate for them because they already have a huge pool of other normal people they can relate to and connect to easily.
I don't think coming from a small family presents a problem in dating, nor do I think it constitutes being not "normal". If I misunderstood what you are saying, please correct me.
I am not a serial dater, and believe me I have taken more than enough breaks! lol
I don't think a break is the answer for me, unfortunately.
You seem to be frustrated and also at a loss. A break can be time to regain a positive attitude about it and think things over.
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