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Comes with the territory. Some people just don't like be rejected and take it very personal. Doesn't matter of it's online or not. As long as you feel you were honest and respectful (unless the person was a total jerk, then you have every right to just let them have it) then you really can't worry about how someone will take it, because it's pretty much out of your hands at that point.
Well, obviously he was nuts and you were right to pick up on those red flags.
But I think it's time to start screening them a little more before you give out your phone number. If you're regularly getting verbally attacked for backing away from different guys, you're letting them get too close before you pull the ripcord. Look back on those guys and see what the common denominator is. It could save you some trouble in the future.
I had one tell me I was "prejudice" for not wanting to date someone 12 years younger than me, and I had one congratulate me on "winning the race to Rejection" when I told him I was sorry, but I know myself well enough to know I'm too selfish for a LDR.
Have you heard online dating compared to window shopping or buying a used car before? He actually said things that made me feel like a used car. He told me he'd basically stopped looking and I was "at the top of his list" because his checklist had all green checks and no red X's when it came to me. He'd pretty much already decided he'd be the one to ultimately move here as I'm much more ingrained in my community than he is his. We never even met in person-just had one phone call which was more dead air than talking.
The kicker? He keeps emailing me as if we're old friends.
As a guy, I will tell you this. When someone says they are 'best guy [you] would ever find', it usually means the opposite. Men who have their stuff together don't advertise like that.
Assuming by the length of your rant about someone ranting about you rejecting them, you're a overcommunicating time waster. This is why I push for a date ASAP. Usually, they'll flake out immediately if they're using OLD like a 2001 AOL chatroom. Ain't nobody got time fo' that.
And/or maybe he's mad at himself for screwing up. Guys really think it's ok to ask a woman sexual questions on the first date, or even before meeting? REALLY??? What are these guys thinking?!
I also get a lot of requests for nude pics From perfectly nice/normal seeming guys who are outwardly attractive, have intelligent-sounding profiles, and good day jobs claiming to be looking for a long term relationship and not a hook up. That's usually what prompts me to cut contact or reject prior to meeting. Another person I broke plans with because he started making racist remarks and it was just a turn off.
Assuming by the length of your rant about someone ranting about you rejecting them, you're a overcommunicating time waster. This is why I push for a date ASAP. Usually, they'll flake out immediately if they're using OLD like a 2001 AOL chatroom. Ain't nobody got time fo' that.
That's quite the jump to conclusions. I'm not ranting, I'm just looking for people to commiserate with.. this is the relationship/dating forum, is it not? This whole online world (and what seems to come along with it) is fairly new to me.
I don't like texting or constant communication at all, I try to avoid it and meet sooner than later... but I guess in a few situations it's been a blessing and revealed people's true colors.
Because some people feel they are such a prize no way would they really get rejected. When I did online my number 1 rejection was dating dads. This seemed to anger these men and I got the nastiest messages from them like how dare I. Isn't it my choice?
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From perfectly nice/normal seeming guys who are outwardly attractive, have intelligent-sounding profiles, and good day jobs claiming to be looking for a long term relationship and not a hook up. That's usually what prompts me to cut contact or reject prior to meeting. Another person I broke plans with because he started making racist remarks and it was just a turn off.
