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That's because it hadn't happened yet in the first post. There's been progress here - you must follow the entire saga .
I want him to ask me out. I don't want to ask him out. Whether he's shy or intimidated by me or whatever it is, he's still they guy and I want him to do it. I also don't want to emasculate him by asking him out, which basically implies that I don't think he has the balls to ask me out (which frankly I AM starting to think, but he doesn't have to know that).
Do you overanalyze everything? My word.
Rather than agonize over every single word or facial tic, do yourself a gigantic favor and simply ask him out. Three hours together at a restaurant or a club or on a picnic, and you'll learn everything you need to know. Your gut will tell you if there's anything there.
Sorry to be so abrupt about it, but you're obsessing over something when actually doing something will answer these questions for you.
Rather than agonize over every single word or facial tic, do yourself a gigantic favor and simply ask him out. Three hours together at a restaurant or a club or on a picnic, and you'll learn everything you need to know. Your gut will tell you if there's anything there.
Sorry to be so abrupt about it, but you're obsessing over something when actually doing something will answer these questions for you.
I had been done with it, but certain posters kept wanting the scoop, so I'm giving people the scoop.
But, yes, honestly I probably do overanalyze. I've always been a perfectionist and I get neurotic about life sometimes. I didn't mind being this way until recently, now it's just getting in the way of my own happiness I think.
I had been done with it, but certain posters kept wanting the scoop, so I'm giving people the scoop.
But, yes, honestly I probably do overanalyze. I've always been a perfectionist and I get neurotic about life sometimes. I didn't mind being this way until recently, now it's just getting in the way of my own happiness I think.
Yeah. I get it. You don't want to just do everything by the seat of your pants, but paralysis by analysis is really a horrible way to live.
Stava, if it hasn’t happened by now it isn’t ever going to happen. You won’t ask him out, the desired situation that he is waiting for, as a real man is not emasculated by anything, only a pssy that you wouldn’t be attracted to anyway. If you could somehow start thinking of the other person for a change instead of fixating on you and what you want you might just have the good time and happy ending that you want. That would be cool wouldn’t it?
Yeah. I get it. You don't want to just do everything by the seat of your pants, but paralysis by analysis is really a horrible way to live.
I will say that I always think something is going to go wrong. If we want to get Freudian here, I had a very unpredictable childhood and so I developed this "need to know" so that I could navigate myself through life. But at this point in my life I just feel too neurotic and it's getting in the way. It's like this undercurrent of negativity that won't seem to go away. I can physically relax but mentally relaxing is not what I do!
I want him to ask me out. I don't want to ask him out. Whether he's shy or intimidated by me or whatever it is, he's still they guy and I want him to do it. I also don't want to emasculate him by asking him out, which basically implies that I don't think he has the balls to ask me out
So, you don't want him, because this ^ is not him. You want some idealized version of a man who gives you what you want. Nothing wrong with wanting what you want, but something wrong with expecting someone to mold their own personality to fit into your ideal.
If you truly like this guy for who he actually is, stop expecting him to be someone else.
Additional compilation on this seems to indicate that you two are a perfect match if opposites attract is true. You want him to ask you and he wants you to ask him, the perfect opposite situation, as neither one of you will initiate the conversation needed to move this forward. Maybe a third party or go between situation is desired, not sure yet what that would be at this time.
Well, I have read the whole thread, and I don't see what is attractive about him at all that makes you want him to ask you out.
I thought you were giving up on this because you decided he was just weird.
I did think he was weird. But now I think he's just really sensitive and introverted. And I kind of find it endearing.
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