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A friend I have says that when a guy contacts you after you haven't spoken for a while and asks you this, that it's code for "Do you have a boyfriend?". lol Is that true?
A friend I have says that when a guy contacts you after you haven't spoken for a while and asks you this, that it's code for "Do you have a boyfriend?". lol Is that true?
I believe it is code for "What's new with you"?
Over the years I have found it best to take a phrase at face value as it is presented until the time that it is shown that another meaning was intended.
That decoding simple messages got really silly. In my opinion "What's new with you" means exactly that, and person is interested in ANY news in your life (new place to live, new job, new big purchases, vacation plans, new people in your life etc.)
There is really no need to over-analyze every word ...
No it means "What is new with you?" Men are simplistic creatures. I can't speak for all men but when it comes to the men in my life (boyfriends/friends/family/et cetera)? Subtlety is not their forte. When he says he likes you, it means he likes you. Not really likes you. Not "fake" likes you. Not "I want you to have my bebes" like you. We women have GOT. TO. STOP. OVER-ANALYZING. THINGS.
If it is, it's dumb way to ask. How would you even fit a boyfriend into the answer to that question?
The relationship would have to be fairly new if this supposed friend didn't know about it. And a new relationship is not something I mention right off the bat to someone I'm not in regular contact with. It seems too personal.
No it means "What is new with you?" Men are simplistic creatures. I can't speak for all men but when it comes to the men in my life (boyfriends/friends/family/et cetera)? Subtly is not their forte. When he says he likes you, it means he likes you. Not really likes you. Not "fake" likes you. Not "I want you to have my bebes" like you. We women have GOT. TO. STOP. OVER-ANALYZING. THINGS.
A lot of men are simple hammer swingin apes.... most of the time the face value is the face value......
Over the years I have found it best to take a phrase at face value as it is presented until the time that it is shown that another meaning was intended.
I agree with this. I think it's why so many people are disappointed when it comes to romance, because they hype things up and read more into it than what was intended. Creating things in one's mind, then when they are proven wrong, it's a longer way to fall when this disillusion happens.
Like a guy who was FWB with a girl. He was extra sweet, liked her company, they hung out. She though he was being so nice because he had deeper feelings and wanted to date her. Needless to say she was disappointing big time when he got a girlfriend-and it wasn't her. He was being her friend-respectful and polite and they hung out. he loved her as a friend, with extra pleasure. But he had no interest in dating her.
So, "what's new with you" seems like typical small intro talk. I wouldn't read it as romance or sexual interest. And if he is interested in either of those, I expect him to be more clear. I hate codes and games.
A friend I have says that when a guy contacts you after you haven't spoken for a while and asks you this, that it's code for "Do you have a boyfriend?". lol Is that true?
People really overanalyze even the most trivial things. "What's new with you" is a conversation starter.
Most guys I know just asks straight up if I am dating anyone.
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