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I just broke up with a woman who wants a traditional marriage, ie: man makes the money and she stays at home with the kids. If I were rich, I could do that. But I just recently got back on my feet and have a lot of catching up to do. If I married her, I'd work til I was dead because I'd have nothing saved for retirement. I'm really surprised women still have these expectations. Of course, I am now living in the Midwest. Maybe thats the issue.
Did she have a job? Did she say she wanted to quit her job and have you support her?
Some people have a lot of nerve.
Pretty much. She hates what she does. She said she would work 2 days a week (she's a nurse, so she can). She has a child and wants another. Its just a huge risk for me after what I've been through personally (divorce) and professionally (the great recession). I can't take that kind of risk, only to have her possibly leave me in 10 years and take half of everything. She also isn't great with money, another huge risk.
Pretty much. She hates what she does. She said she would work 2 days a week (she's a nurse, so she can). She has a child and wants another. Its just a huge risk for me after what I've been through personally (divorce) and professionally (the great recession). I can't take that kind of risk, only to have her possibly leave me in 10 years and take half of everything. She also isn't great with money, another huge risk.
I just broke up with a woman who wants a traditional marriage, ie: man makes the money and she stays at home with the kids. If I were rich, I could do that. But I just recently got back on my feet and have a lot of catching up to do. If I married her, I'd work til I was dead because I'd have nothing saved for retirement. I'm really surprised women still have these expectations. Of course, I am now living in the Midwest. Maybe thats the issue.
What's so bad about a traditional marriage where the woman stayed at home with the kids..........
Did she have a job? Did she say she wanted to quit her job and have you support her?
Some people have a lot of nerve.
You'd be surprised.
Even some of the most ambitious women I know, deep down they dream of a man supporting them so they don't have to work. I'm talking about women I know who are doctors and own their own successful businesses.
I think most women if they could get into that situation or get close, they'd take that deal or try and make it happen.
Pretty much. She hates what she does. She said she would work 2 days a week (she's a nurse, so she can). She has a child and wants another. Its just a huge risk for me after what I've been through personally (divorce) and professionally (the great recession). I can't take that kind of risk, only to have her possibly leave me in 10 years and take half of everything. She also isn't great with money, another huge risk.
She's a nurse? Nurses make good money. And when they get seniority, they get dibs for the best shifts, like the weekend double-time-paying shifts. 2 days' work for 4 days' pay.
Still, it seems like you and she just aren't on the same page. She wants a child, you don't feel ready financially. She wants to manage a family at home, you can't afford it. You both need to move on, and you need to find the type who's into rolling up her sleeves and pitching in. You're not well matched, at all. Also, it sounds like she wants to be able to spend your money as well as hers. Really bad sign.
She's a nurse? Nurses make good money. And when they get seniority, they get dibs for the best shifts, like the weekend double-time-paying shifts. 2 days' work for 4 days' pay.
Still, it seems like you and she just aren't on the same page. She wants a child, you don't feel ready financially. She wants to manage a family at home, you can't afford it. You both need to move on, and you need to find the type who's into rolling up her sleeves and pitching in. You're not well matched, at all. Also, it sounds like she wants to be able to spend your money as well as hers. Really bad sign.
You need a better fit and sad to say she wasn't it.
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