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Old 08-24-2014, 06:20 PM
 
Location: London
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I do feel very happy with my boyfriend, but just one thing bothers me.

He likes talking to different girls on fb a lot, and in reality as well. Also he likes checking out attractive/interesting girls on instagram, and would told me he finds someone attractive/beautiful. He even tells me he find some models' body very sexy.

Meanwhile he tells me there's nothing I should be mad with, and said in his culture it's very normal.

Not sure, I think even people are from different culture we have basic feelings that are similar... What would you do in this situation?
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Old 08-24-2014, 06:36 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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I do feel very happy with my boyfriend, but just one thing bothers me.

He likes talking to different girls on fb a lot, and in reality as well. Also he likes checking out attractive/interesting girls on instagram, and would told me he finds someone attractive/beautiful. He even tells me he find some models' body very sexy.

Meanwhile he tells me there's nothing I should be mad with, and said in his culture it's very normal.

Not sure, I think even people are from different culture we have basic feelings that are similar... What would you do in this situation?
I wouldn't waste any energy on the model types, but the real life women in his life and he's being overly flirty and or interested in them is a problem.... I would think.... him dropping the culture reference is lame..... if he's doing things to make his lady uncomfortable in the present and now that all that matters...... let him know how you feel and if he doesn't change his behavior drop him like a bad habit.
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Old 08-24-2014, 06:44 PM
 
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I wouldn't waste any energy on the model types, but the real life women in his life and he's being overly flirty and or interested in them is a problem.... I would think.... him dropping the culture reference is lame..... if he's doing things to make his lady uncomfortable in the present and now that all that matters...... let him know how you feel and if he doesn't change his behavior drop him like a bad habit.
^^^^ I agree.

I am a married female.

I would never get involved with a guy like your boyfriend when I was single.

Time for you to move on, and the sooner the better.
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Old 08-24-2014, 06:45 PM
 
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cant really offer any advice because i have never been into the whole fb, instagram, social media thing

i notice that this generation of people build self-esteem off of nonsence like twitter followers and other bs like that.. i cant relate to it as it all seems fake and artificial to me

its obviously bothering you so i think the best thing for you to do is duscuss it with your bf

ask him why it is so neccessary to chat with strangers eveb though it makes you uncomfortable

good luck
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Old 08-24-2014, 06:50 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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I do feel very happy with my boyfriend, but just one thing bothers me.

He likes talking to different girls on fb a lot, and in reality as well. Also he likes checking out attractive/interesting girls on instagram, and would told me he finds someone attractive/beautiful. He even tells me he find some models' body very sexy.

Meanwhile he tells me there's nothing I should be mad with, and said in his culture it's very normal.

Not sure, I think even people are from different culture we have basic feelings that are similar... What would you do in this situation?
Find a guy from a different culture. Tell your current guy you're not able to overcome the cultural differences between you two.
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Old 08-24-2014, 07:05 PM
 
Location: D.C.
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Dump him and move on.
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Old 08-24-2014, 07:16 PM
 
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I'm not with a girl unless I'm into her. And when I'm into her, she's the one I revolve around. I have no need to seek out other opportunities to check out women. It's weird that he's going out of his way to find women to ck out, like on Instagram, etc. Like he's making a hobby of it. Find someone who's into YOU.
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Old 08-24-2014, 08:20 PM
 
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Leave his butt in the dust. I'd lay it down if my now husband ever did that. If he can't even keep his eyes on you then he won't be able to keep anything within your relationship. These types are like this no matter who they're with. It's his problem, not you.
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Old 08-24-2014, 08:57 PM
 
Location: Pa
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Ewww he's a perve.
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Old 08-24-2014, 10:16 PM
 
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I do feel very happy with my boyfriend, but just one thing bothers me.

He likes talking to different girls on fb a lot, and in reality as well. Also he likes checking out attractive/interesting girls on instagram, and would told me he finds someone attractive/beautiful. He even tells me he find some models' body very sexy.

Meanwhile he tells me there's nothing I should be mad with, and said in his culture it's very normal.

Not sure, I think even people are from different culture we have basic feelings that are similar... What would you do in this situation?
Nope, I won't stay with a guy like that. My ex was that way. I find that very disrespectful and gives me the impression that they are bored. His eyes should only be focused on you. He should look at you like you're the only girl in the world.
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