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Listen, the guy told you initially that he wanted to be exclusive, so you know that is what he wanted; anytime you veer from that you're going to have problems.
Then you didn't really like the sex.....
Just let the situation go already.
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So what I'm asking is it okay for me to feel these feelings, to express some of them to him eventually? Am I being selfish? Am I wrong? should I continue to waste efforts trying to make things up to him--how I do even deal with him at this point? And how do I make myself not want sex anymore, lol. This is a vent, but feedback(that is helpful and not rude or mean) is appreciated.
He doesn't want that kind of deal with you, he wants a relationship. It's obvious you don't have real feelings for him, and he knows it too. Just leave him alone. And no, I don't think you should call him out on it. It's his absolute right to not want a FWB arrangement, and frankly, I think you are in the wrong for feeling angry about it. Move on to someone else for your FWB and let him find a real girlfriend who will care about him.
He's acting weird because she got her terms mixed up for 1 thing.
So, so she's not understanding FWB, and getting is mixed up with a F Buddy. If she just wants to call him to have sex, and be done, then that was something she should have made clear. He was thinking FWB where they hang out and have fun that isn't all about sex.
Well put. Friends With Benefits isn't what the OP wants; that implies she should also be his friend, not just his f***.
Well put. Friends With Benefits isn't what the OP wants; that implies she should also be his friend, not just his f***.
But she wanted to take months to get to know him so she would be comfortable.
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But am I really the only one that did confusing things, miscommunicated and messed up? Like I just wish he would have been honest with me in the beginning and that I didn't have sex with him. I don't think we can go back to being "friends" and everytime I try to be friends with him, he acts like we are platonic friends and everything seems ok, then I find out that it's not true. If I had known more about where his mind was at, I wouldn't have asked him. He texted me this morning and I honestly don't even know how to proceed with him. Just never again.
Why do you keep wanting to blame him for this? You are the one who was being pushy and he said he didn't want to have that kind of a relationship with you. He likes you, and after he had sex with you, he realized he couldn't do this. If that's the kind of deal you want, go elsewhere, and leave him alone.
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But she wanted to take months to get to know him so she would be comfortable.
Yeah, she wanted to treat him like a friend and hang out with him like a friend, then start scr*wing him and then stop treating him like a friend and stop hanging out with him like a friend.
I feel bad that I slept with him andincreased my "number" for no reason. Like I really feel like to get closure on this I need to ask him why he agreed to be my fwb then changed his mind, especially knowing that wasn't what he wanted. I just feel tricked. :-( . I'm going to have to wait to get into a relationship before I sleep with anyone again but I feel like it was such a waste and I'm really embarassed by the situation altogether.
Look, you truly do not need to be in any kind of relationship, f***buddy or otherwise, if that's how you view sex.
I say this all the time. The single most important thing about having a "casual" relationship with a man where sex is involved: don't talk. Just don't talk. You have a mother, sisters, girlfriends, therapist, your pastor, women at the office, gay male friends, the neighbor, strangers on a bus, your cat, the wall, yourself, this forum... just don't talk to the man that you are having sex with.
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