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well on the cynical/jaded side, I quote W. Somerset Maugham "On Human Bondage"
within two lovers there is always one who loves -
and one consents to be loved
but back in the real world, mid-to-long term attraction must be mutual, and that's hard to find. Which is why there is so much "effort" and "sorting" in the dating pool. And "timing" can make or eliminate everything.
It's been exactly 1 week since I went out on a first date. I met her in real life, we had "excellent" txt game, she was diggin on my memes and sense of humor, said I was outrageous and she txt'ed back the same. In my mind, she's the best thing I've met all year. But admittedly I don't know much about her other than "she's real pretty", a nurse with a good job, lived in Vegas and moved back here after school.
We met for a date, she *hated* everything I liked to do on weekends, she's a gym rat who can do the *same* workout 4-6 days a week, she hates my (last attended and suggested upcoming) concerts, going out at night, avoids the beach/sun, etc. When I told her my job, she sighed with something between boredom and disgust/apathy, like her ex must've been similar. Within 20 mins she was checking her phone, watching other people walk in the room, eyes everywhere but on me. Sucks. She said she'd "let me know" when I asked for another date. I was thinking "best I've met all year" - but she was like "-NEXT!"
It's rarely happened to me but if they do that in my face once I make a comment, twice and I immediately ask for the check. No way am I putting up with that crap.
Just like an actual chemistry experiment, it takes more than one substance to create a reaction, otherwise it's just a liquid in a beaker. Chemistry is something felt between two people. If it's only felt on one side, it's not chemistry.
I was with you up to the last paragraph and just want to point out that chemistry is not only sexual. My husband and I have incredible chemistry, have had so since the night we met and began chatting at a Christmas party. I really can't articulate the feeling, other than it was like an unseen force drawing us to each other, in the way we think, communicate, interact with each other. It goes much much further and deeper than just the bedroom.
Can chemistry be felt by only one person? I started seeing a guy a few months ago and halfway through our first date I knew that I liked him. I was instantly drawn in. When he leaned in to kiss me I felt like an electric rush. I've never experienced what that's like before, to actually desire somebody. We dated a few weeks but he eventually broke it off and I'm just confused because I really thought we had that "spark". We got intimate every time we hung out so I know there was something sexual between us. Am I confusing attraction with chemistry? He told me he didn't feel as strongly about me as I did about him.
Happens to me all the time. It's usually caused by some character flaws (most women think) of mine. In reality I grew up tough and have lived a very hard life where you have to fight for everything and anything. Some past training to do bad stuff to bad men doesn't help either. You never forget it.
Happens to me all the time. It's usually caused by some character flaws (most women think) of mine. In reality I grew up tough and have lived a very hard life where you have to fight for everything and anything. Some past training to do bad stuff to bad men doesn't help either. You never forget it.
As Liberty2011 has already stated, if it's only being felt by one person it's not "chemistry", it's only attraction.
So you are being shot down by people you are "attracted" to, not people you have chemistry with.
As Liberty2011 has already stated, if it's only being felt by one person it's not "chemistry", it's only attraction.
So you are being shot down by people you are "attracted" to, not people you have chemistry with.
I get shot down by everybody (women) I mean. The dislikes outnumber the likes. That and the fact I am sorta washed up doesn't help either. I'll be the 95 year old man who beats the neighborhood prowler within an inch of his life when I catch him......trust me on that one.
I get shot down by everybody (women) I mean. The dislikes outnumber the likes. That and the fact I am sorta washed up doesn't help either. I'll be the 95 year old man who beats the neighborhood prowler within an inch of his life when I catch him......trust me on that one.
And I'm sorry about that ....I was just wanting to help you understand what is happening to you isn't about "chemistry", it's about women not being attracted to you, see the difference?
And I'm sorry about that ....I was just wanting to help you understand what is happening to you isn't about "chemistry", it's about women not being attracted to you, see the difference?
I already could/can tell it. I won't or can't change who I am either, so that leaves me to be discovered as a diamond in the rough. The one who digs me up will be rich as hell, she can't be brainless to do it.
I already could/can tell it. I won't or can't change who I am either, so that leaves me to be discovered as a diamond in the rough. The one who digs me up will be rich as hell, she can't be brainless to do it.
I give up lol
Wishing you all the best and hoping you find the woman you have chemistry with real soon
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....I was just wanting to help you understand what is happening to you isn't about "chemistry", it's about women not being attracted to you, see the difference?
