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I dated the first guy Ive ever been attracted to this summer and let's just say I made a lot of mistakes. (I'm 20, he's 23) On the second date I offered to go back to his house and watch a movie. Things got out of hand and we had oral sex. Our entire relationship was very sexual and I regret being so easy because I've never been like that before. I've been saving my first time for when I'm in a relationship with someone and he thought I was some easy disposable girl.
Another mistake I made was making plans with him instead of letting him come to me. He was interested in me but I never gave him the chance to take the initiative. He ultimately told me that I treated him like he was my boyfriend and got too serious too quickly. Oh and "fell too hard too fast." Again, I've never had a boyfriend and I'm really new to this. I think I was just excited to actually like someone. He, on the other hand, is experienced with girls. He's had quite a few girlfriends. His last girlfriend cheated on him so I thought he would appreciate someone nice. I have a big heart and I would never cheat on anyone. I think I'm taking this hard because I've never been "rejected" so to speak.
I just want this to be the first and last time this ever happens to me because it messed with me emotionally. Does anyone any advice? How long should I wait to do more intimate things when seeing someone new?
I've made similar mistakes. It's ok to make mistakes as long as you learn from them and try not to repeat them. If you know before the date that you're not ready for intimacy, don't shave and wear ugly panties so that you won't be tempted to go too far. lol
I've made similar mistakes. It's ok to make mistakes as long as you learn from them and try not to repeat them. If you know before the date that you're not ready for intimacy, don't shave and wear ugly panties so that you won't be tempted to go too far. lol
That doesn't work for many men, myself included. You will get the opposite reaction.
I've made similar mistakes. It's ok to make mistakes as long as you learn from them and try not to repeat them. If you know before the date that you're not ready for intimacy, don't shave and wear ugly panties so that you won't be tempted to go too far. lol
I dated the first guy Ive ever been attracted to this summer and let's just say I made a lot of mistakes. (I'm 20, he's 23) On the second date I offered to go back to his house and watch a movie. Things got out of hand and we had oral sex. Our entire relationship was very sexual and I regret being so easy because I've never been like that before. I've been saving my first time for when I'm in a relationship with someone and he thought I was some easy disposable girl.
Another mistake I made was making plans with him instead of letting him come to me. He was interested in me but I never gave him the chance to take the initiative. He ultimately told me that I treated him like he was my boyfriend and got too serious too quickly. Oh and "fell too hard too fast." Again, I've never had a boyfriend and I'm really new to this. I think I was just excited to actually like someone. He, on the other hand, is experienced with girls. He's had quite a few girlfriends. His last girlfriend cheated on him so I thought he would appreciate someone nice. I have a big heart and I would never cheat on anyone. I think I'm taking this hard because I've never been "rejected" so to speak.
I just want this to be the first and last time this ever happens to me because it messed with me emotionally. Does anyone any advice? How long should I wait to do more intimate things when seeing someone new?
My guess is you're attractive, right? So guys are going to come onto you, and some will have better intentions than others. Your job is to learn to weed out and avoid the ones who just want you for sex. You will become much better at this with age. These guys will come on VERY strong, will "sweep you off your feet", but there is little to no substance behind it because they are shallow, insecure people who just see you as a conquest. And yes, you will feel flattered by their love-bombing, but in the end you're going to get tossed aside, as so many have before you.
My advice is to know yourself well and stick to your principles. Have standards that are unwavering. If you see a guy come on way too strong, don't allow yourself to get sucked in by the flattery. Give it time. Nobody has real feelings for someone right off the bat - those develop. So be authentic and consistent, and this will drive the selfish players away.
Well it's good you seem to know what you want, and learn when something just isn't for you. I don't do casual sex either, or wouldn't do it, I should say.
So, this guy is probably a lost cause, but you did gain some experience from the situation. Also, in the future, on the off chance you didn't here, make sure the guy shows you STD test results, verifying that he's clean, if he's been active. Because even with oral, disease, can get in your mouth, which is probably the worst place to have it lol.
So, don't get spooked. Sex is great, and you should enjoy, but just know who you are, what you want, and take good precautions. Types of birth control, possibly using more than one, and having your partners be tested before things get hot. Reckless is never good. It's like drinking. Fine if one wants to do it, but don't get drunk and act stupid, because it can cause problems, sometimes very serious ones.
Yeah, he's a lost cause. The last time I saw him he said "If you don't sleep with anyone this semester, you'll call me over winter break and ask me to **** you." So clearly, he thinks I'm waiting around for his sleazy ass. Honestly, he was kind of an ******* anyway.
Yeah, he's a lost cause. The last time I saw him he said "If you don't sleep with anyone this semester, you'll call me over winter break and ask me to **** you." So clearly, he thinks I'm waiting around for his sleazy ass. Honestly, he was kind of an ******* anyway.
This guy is full of himself. No one honorable would talk like that.
I'm friends with a girl that I have a limited sexual relationship with. We messed around in her dorm awhile back and she gave the go ahead for me to have sex with her, but it didn't feel right. She detested me for a bit afterwards, but she is now happily married with a newborn. I don't know if I have a point here other than everything can work out in the end.
Personally, no I would not lose interest. I've only had sex with someone once on a first date, and she was the one who eventually broke things off. I would never think less of a woman for this, to me it just means she's horny and wants some.
I guess to some guys this is a turn-off, but never has been for me.
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