Broken up , Ex girlfriend still loves me and probably pregnant . Need help ? (dating, how to)
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Hey everyone ,
Will try and tell my story as short as possible.
So 2 months ago we broken up after almost 4 years dating. Reason where that I got carried away and cheated on her. Told her everything and since then we where still having contact and seeing eachother and having intercourse with eachother.
We still talk a lot and we both know we do want this to work out with eachother although it will require time. I accepted the break up and ( although in the beginning I did push and beg but saw It was wrong of me ) Things are chilled now and I just trying to be a good friend for her to support her when she is having a difficult time.
Now she recently told me that she has missed her period for almost 10 days now, first hpt was negative but second showed slightly 2 stripes. We just have that feeling that she might possibly be pregnant. Not very ideal as we still in a very difficult situation. She has days of ups and downs where one day she is super angry at me and the other day she aks me to see her. I kindoff processed her behaviour and know I must just let her do her thing as it is a way of coping with the problems and emotions at hand.
What do you guys think about the situation , obviously I do want to get back with her sooner or later , but I do know it takes 2 of us and especially time and also forgiveness of her. Her feelings haven't changed towards me , she just is very disappointed and angry cause of what ive done.
Hey everyone ,
Will try and tell my story as short as possible.
So 2 months ago we broken up after almost 4 years dating. Reason where that
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I got carried away and cheated on her.
Told her everything and since then we where still having contact and seeing eachother and having intercourse with eachother.
We still talk a lot and we both know we do want this to work out with eachother although it will require time. I accepted the break up and ( although in the beginning I did push and beg but saw It was wrong of me ) Things are chilled now and I just trying to be a good friend for her to support her when she is having a difficult time.
Now she recently told me that she has missed her period for almost 10 days now, first hpt was negative but second showed slightly 2 stripes. We just have that feeling that she might possibly be pregnant. Not very ideal as we still in a very difficult situation. She has days of ups and downs where one day she is super angry at me and the other day she aks me to see her. I kindoff processed her behaviour and know I must just let her do her thing as it is a way of coping with the problems and emotions at hand.
What do you guys think about the situation , obviously I do want to get back with her sooner or later , but I do know it takes 2 of us and especially time and also forgiveness of her. Her feelings haven't changed towards me , she just is very disappointed and angry cause of what ive done.
Thanks a lot
I cannot blame her as being angry if she is not getting angry on what you did to her she was not a woman who loves you or cares about you, she did both that is why she is mad at you. As you both knew it is a hard time and if it is not ideal at the moment to get pregnant how come you both had non protected intercourse? May be this will be a good chance for you both to work it out being a good parents for the child. But still go to a doctor and get confirmed if she is pregnant for sure. Some times due to the stress also menstruation going missing.
If I were you I will accept child, help her to go through with pregnancy be a good father and a partner leave behind what ever happened as a past. Wish you all the best !
We both finished our studies and have our degrees , im almost 24 and she is almost 23. We do need to go and confirm weather or not she is pregnant. I know and understand her reaction completely and I said by myself whatever happens ill still support her and help her. I really love her and I did went trough a very bad period in my life. I have it back on the rails hopefully not too late. But ill give her space and time to think and we will see what the future brings. Guess if she is angry its still a good thing then just don't care anymore. Thanks again for the positive advice.
We both finished our studies and have our degrees , im almost 24 and she is almost 23. We do need to go and confirm weather or not she is pregnant. I know and understand her reaction completely and I said by myself whatever happens ill still support her and help her. I really love her and I did went trough a very bad period in my life. I have it back on the rails hopefully not too late. But ill give her space and time to think and we will see what the future brings. Guess if she is angry its still a good thing then just don't care anymore. Thanks again for the positive advice.
Just give her space let her to think free, don't push her self too much, it is hard I know it my self,If she wants to have the baby just support her any ways you can be there for her, And care for the child as best as you can, even there wont be a relationship between you too. Some days that will give you real good feeling, If she want to be together just give a try for both of your selves ,every one make mistakes, learning from own mistakes, and learn how to forgive and accept each other is the best blessings. I am sure everything will work out for you.
Just give her space let her to think free, don't push her self too much, it is hard I know it my self,If she wants to have the baby just support her any ways you can be there for her, And care for the child as best as you can, even there wont be a relationship between you too. Some days that will give you real good feeling, If she want to be together just give a try for both of your selves ,every one make mistakes, learning from own mistakes, and learn how to forgive and accept each other is the best blessings. I am sure everything will work out for you.
True words , as every guy I was way to selfish in the beginning by trying and push things, now I gave it time and its going better as she asks to see me , but then other days she doesn't want to do anything with me and is angry. I did accepted the break up as I don't want to hurt myself anymore. But I will still be there for her but will put the selfish side away as it is all about her now. I will give her the space she needs and I am willing to even take actions and to go to a specialist to work on my mistakes, understand them and learn from them. Actions do speak louder than words of me saying it wont never happen again and all that stuff. So im being positive, and giving myself a fully 100 procent again , I go to the gym, got new clothes, working out and working well for varsity. I hope she forgives me and gives me a second chance , time will tell. Thanks again for your advice.
Hopefully, she will smarten up and ditch you. Sorry, my advise isn't so positive, I just have absolutely no empathy for cheaters.
Congrats, if she's prego, she lucked out if she isn't.
Good luck
No problem , appreciate your answer anyway.
I did make a mistake and learn from it, it only made me a better person. Hence I know its , I am and was disrespectfull cheating on her , everyone does deserve a second chance and im willing to work on it and really take actions of necessary first for myself and if things goes well also for her. Her parents went weirdly enough trough the same situation , in a later stage of life but are now back togheter happier and stronger then before Just staying positive ...
You all have a LOT of work ahead of you, especially with a new baby (if she is pregnant).
Good luck to you. I have no advice except to suggest you remain transparent and know that this will not be an easy journey. You may want to seek couples counseling if she is willing.
You all have a LOT of work ahead of you, especially with a new baby (if she is pregnant).
Good luck to you. I have no advice except to suggest you remain transparent and know that this will not be an easy journey. You may want to seek couples counseling if she is willing.
I am aware of that, and im willing to do it too. We spoke about counselling and we might go for it somewhere next week. I do hope she is not pregnant as that will take a huge amount of stress of our lives. Thanks for the reply
True words , as every guy I was way to selfish in the beginning by trying and push things, now I gave it time and its going better as she asks to see me , but then other days she doesn't want to do anything with me and is angry. I did accepted the break up as I don't want to hurt myself anymore. But I will still be there for her but will put the selfish side away as it is all about her now. I will give her the space she needs and I am willing to even take actions and to go to a specialist to work on my mistakes, understand them and learn from them. Actions do speak louder than words of me saying it wont never happen again and all that stuff. So im being positive, and giving myself a fully 100 procent again , I go to the gym, got new clothes, working out and working well for varsity. I hope she forgives me and gives me a second chance , time will tell. Thanks again for your advice.
well said you can go for it. If you took the lesson nothing would go wrong. you are still young. you have enough time time to develop your self.
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