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I dont see any problem with this at all, and I would think there would be a lot of women who would respond to that.
If I decide to date, and I dont foresee that in the immediate future, but if I did, I would also do a financial check on anyone responding. At this point in my life, I dont want to support anyone else; even if I did, it would be stupid, as I have far less years in front of me than behind me.
I think the OP is smart. He just needs to weed out the leeches and be patient.
Blktop, you seem like a pretty obnoxious person and I am not surprised that you are having issues finding the person that you seek. Yes, there are women who erroneously assume that older men will be completely blinded by their youth and/or beauty in an attempt to "be taken care of."
That said, your approach is extremely uncouth. Take money out of the equation entirely. Your concern is being with women at the same stage/age as yourself. This is understandable and in fact, laudable. If you are meeting women who don't meet that criteria, you should simply eliminate them without further contact (or undue analysis).
But to demean others by asking what else they "bring to the table besides themselves" is unnecessary.
It is my experience that those who are so stringently attached to money, ultimately lose it.
Good luck.
Thank you.. What is it that makes me seem obnoxious to you? Specifically?
Why do you get mad when I express my desire not to find -- someone to support?
I demean them?
You are saying that it is somehow my "fault" because I spend an hour or so talking to these women who read my profile and messaged me, and then when I find they don't meet my desires that I have already clearly stated, it is my fault that I end the conversation by reiterating my goals? I should instead just say. "Sorry, I have to go wash my cat, and then never get back to them again?"
I think your idea of tack and honesty must not be the same as mine.
My profile on an OLD site says I am about to retire and looking for someone in the same mindset and financial situation. But almost all the responses I get are from younger women (35-40) looking to hook up and take a free ride. When I point out my posted requirement that they come to the table with something other than themselves; boy, do they get mad.
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What percentage of people in the US do you think have not prepared for life by obtaining any legally marketable skills, followed up by a job and savings, and would just prefer to find someone to take care of them in their later years?
How do you know they want a free ride exactly? You don't. Very few people in this country have any real retirement savings.
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I completly understand the OPs position. When I was in the dating scene, I would never have dated someone who I perceived to have much less than I did. I worked too hard all my life to suddenly have someone who wanted to mooch. Surprisingly, all of the men I dated had at least as much as me...and yes, I took turns paying for the dates.
My current situation is with someone who has far more than I do...but I still pay most of my own way.
Thank you.. What is it that makes me seem obnoxious to you? Specifically? Why do you get mad when I express my desire not to find -- someone to support?
I assure you that I am not mad. I am blunt because I am British, not because I feel particularly strongly on the issue. The way things are looking for me, I will probably retire in my 40s so I understand where you're coming from.
Regardless, your approach as well as your attitude could use an overhaul.
Perhaps you're not looking in the right places. Where are you searching exactly? Cheap/free sites like PlentyOfFish or OKCupid? You won't find many SERIOUS prospects that way if you are. Try E-Harmony or Match.com (which are PAY sites but bring in more serious/wealthy/established members who are serious about longer term matching and not just casual hookups). You get what you pay for when it comes to online dating......
Yes, I realize it is a numbers game.. .and that the chances of finding what I am looking for are very slim. But I surely am not the only person in the world who is retiring at 54 and financially unencumbered. That is why I choose to go to OLD, because I am not going to meet that person walking down the street.
Honestly, I'm not sure how many retired bankers (I know women who retired from banking in their 40's) or independently wealthy women would be using OLD. A better bet for you might be a professional matchmaking service. You're batting in the wrong park.
Perhaps you're not looking in the right places. Where are you searching exactly? Cheap/free sites like PlentyOfFish or OKCupid? You won't find many SERIOUS prospects that way if you are. Try E-Harmony or Match.com (which are PAY sites but bring in more serious/wealthy/established members who are serious about longer term matching and not just casual hookups). You get what you pay for when it comes to online dating......
I've been there too - even on "Millionaire" dating sites. The results are all the same as far as I can tell. As I said earlier. I am assuming this will just be a futile effort, but it just amazes me that women get mad - when it is they who are causing the ruckus by ignoring the post in the first place.
Blktop, you seem like a pretty obnoxious person and I am not surprised that you are having issues finding the person that you seek. Yes, there are women who erroneously assume that older men will be completely blinded by their youth and/or beauty in an attempt to "be taken care of."
That said, your approach is extremely uncouth. Take money out of the equation entirely. Your concern is being with women at the same stage/age as yourself. This is understandable and in fact, laudable. If you are meeting women who don't meet that criteria, you should simply eliminate them without further contact (or undue analysis).
But to demean others by asking what else they "bring to the table besides themselves" is unnecessary.
It is my experience that those who are so stringently attached to money, ultimately lose it.
Good luck.
It's worth remembering that you do catch more flies with honey than with vinegar
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