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What horrible advice, forget what this person said, the "just be yourself" is the worse advice ever, being yourself hasn't worked so far so change your life.
Besides, being fat, living with the parents and being a virgin are not superficial criteria, they're pretty big deals.
What he said.
Not true, you'd have to be a morbidly obese, facially deformed, one legged witch with rabies for men not to be interested in you.
Exactly, a woman might be approached 100 times but if she doesn't like any of the guys she will say no one approaches her. It's probably the same mechanism that women use to minimize their sexual partners count, "oh, I was drunk so it doesn't count", "oh, I didn't like him so it doesn't count", "oh, it was a one night stand so it doesn't count", "oh, I was on vacation so it doesn't count", and on. Women, you got to love them
Now, I'm not saying women should just go with just anyone who shows them some attention, of course not, I'm glad women are a bit more selective then that, but don't try to pretend you have it as bad as men in the dating scene, you don't, not even close. True, you might not be approached by the men of your dreams, I understand that, but then again, we men also practically never see the woman of our dreams either.
To the OP, stop complaining, start eating well, exercise, lose weight, start dressing better, move out, go see a hooker and lose your virginity already, it's silly that a 32 year old men is a virgin, start interacting with humans that share your interests, be it games, movies, whatever, just get out more.
Its not silly that the op is still a virgin, its understandable. Not every guy is/was able to have the experiences you have had with women. It doesn't come easy to many guys. Clearly you have had it easy with women so stop being so naive as to think every guy should have it as easy as you have. Life doesn't work that way.
What horrible advice, forget what this person said, the "just be yourself" is the worse advice ever, being yourself hasn't worked so far so change your life.
Besides, being fat, living with the parents and being a virgin are not superficial criteria, they're pretty big deals.
What he said.
Not true, you'd have to be a morbidly obese, facially deformed, one legged witch with rabies for men not to be interested in you.
Exactly, a woman might be approached 100 times but if she doesn't like any of the guys she will say no one approaches her. It's probably the same mechanism that women use to minimize their sexual partners count, "oh, I was drunk so it doesn't count", "oh, I didn't like him so it doesn't count", "oh, it was a one night stand so it doesn't count", "oh, I was on vacation so it doesn't count", and on. Women, you got to love them
Now, I'm not saying women should just go with just anyone who shows them some attention, of course not, I'm glad women are a bit more selective then that, but don't try to pretend you have it as bad as men in the dating scene, you don't, not even close. True, you might not be approached by the men of your dreams, I understand that, but then again, we men also practically never see the woman of our dreams either.
To the OP, stop complaining, start eating well, exercise, lose weight, start dressing better, move out, go see a hooker and lose your virginity already, it's silly that a 32 year old men is a virgin, start interacting with humans that share your interests, be it games, movies, whatever, just get out more.
I'll leave it up to the women to say whether they'd prefer to be with a virgin, or a guy who has only been with a hooker.
I could see how living with parents could be a problem, but at least he's saving up for his own place.
But, as a fat guy myself, I'd like to know why being fat is such a big issue. Everyone is different, but I got tired of dieting and exercise (often unsuccessfully, I might add) when I was a kid, and gave that up when I left home for college. After college, within the first year, I did put on a little more weight, as I got an office job. But my weight has remained stable for the 12-13 years since then. I mean sure, I could re-enter the miserable world of diet and exercise and lose weight, and attract someone who wouldn't be attracted to a fat guy. But, are they going to leave me after I return to my normal weight? Do I have to trade living "fat and happy" but single, for living miserably, but in a relationship?
I'll be turning 32 soon, and I have come to the conclusion that I will never get a date or a girlfriend.
I never dated in high school or college, mostly because I was focusing on my studies and interests. In high school I had attempted to talk to a few girls who might have been interesting, but each time, I got rejected. There were a few girls that were interested in me, but I wasn't interested in them. In college there were some girls I was interested in, but they had boyfriends or fiances, and that also put a damper on my dating abilities.
I tried online dating for a while, with no success.
Now I am afraid that if any potential date finds out I am a virgin or never dated, they will be turned off/not interested and reject me or block me from contacting them.
I live in my parents' backyard. I have been saving up to buy a house or condo, but most of the homes in my area are expensive, even though I have a full-time job. I am also overweight, and have been trying my best to work on that by going to the gym.
I am starting to feel like there is no hope for me, as I feel that women aren't attracted to me.
I can understand,
I am not going to give you any false hopes here, I would tell you not to worry about it. You are not alone, there are people like that. I am going to be honest here, you must know that not everyone is meant for love/relationships. I understand you have tried, that's a good thing at least, you should take pride in that. I think you were just unlucky.
I don't know how it's with you but if you are certain or if you have come to a conclusion that you won't ever have a relationship, it's not a bad thing, you should then concentrate on other things in life, you should then plan your life knowing the fact that you'll be single.
Its not silly that the op is still a virgin, its understandable. Not every guy is/was able to have the experiences you have had with women. It doesn't come easy to many guys. Clearly you have had it easy with women so stop being so naive as to think every guy should have it as easy as you have. Life doesn't work that way.
I'm not saying it's easy for him to have experiences with women, it clearly isn't, I'm saying it's silly for a men to wait 32 years to have sex with a woman. If he can't find a willing partner, a girlfriend or whatever then just find some escort and get rid of your virginity. It's just sex, I don't get why people make such a big deal out of it, it is not a big deal and you wouldn't think sex is some kind of magical special thing that can only be done with someone who you're in love with or something anymore. Sure, it's great if you can have it with someone you care about but if this is not the case then it's much healthier for him to finally do it with an escort and get it over with then be a virgin forever.
It's just sex
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I'll leave it up to the women to say whether they'd prefer to be with a virgin, or a guy who has only been with a hooker.
And why would you tell them that? Women don't like 32 year old virgins, better just have sex and get rid of it. Being a male virgin is not special, even though I'm sure you'll have women here trying to be all nice to make him feel better and say what a wonderful guy he is for "waiting for his true love" or some silly thing like that.
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Originally Posted by JR_C
But, as a fat guy myself, I'd like to know why being fat is such a big issue. Everyone is different, but I got tired of dieting and exercise (often unsuccessfully, I might add) when I was a kid, and gave that up when I left home for college. After college, within the first year, I did put on a little more weight, as I got an office job. But my weight has remained stable for the 12-13 years since then. I mean sure, I could re-enter the miserable world of diet and exercise and lose weight, and attract someone who wouldn't be attracted to a fat guy. But, are they going to leave me after I return to my normal weight? Do I have to trade living "fat and happy" but single, for living miserably, but in a relationship?
You can be fat if you want, no one is forcing you to lose weight, you can do whatever you want, but you have to be realistic and acknowledge that women (just like men regarding women) prefer men with normal weight. I know there are plenty of fat people with sexual or life partners, hell nowadays most people are fat and they have partners, so it's common, but for someone like the OP, who has such low self esteem and confidence, losing weight and dealing with his other issues would increase his confidence.
I'm not saying it's easy for him to have experiences with women, it clearly isn't, I'm saying it's silly for a men to wait 32 years to have sex with a woman. If he can't find a willing partner a girlfriends or whatever then just find some escort and get rid of your virginity. It's just sex, I don't get why people make such a big deal out of it, it is not a big deal and you wouldn't think sex is some kind of magical special thing that can only be done with someone who you're in love with or something anymore. Sure, it's great if you can have it with someone you care about but if this is not the case then it's much healthier for him to finally do it with an escort and get it over with then be a virgin forever.
It's just sex
What's that old saying..."Sex is like oxygen. It's only a big deal if you're not getting any".
I'm not saying it's easy for him to have experiences with women, it clearly isn't, I'm saying it's silly for a men to wait 32 years to have sex with a woman. If he can't find a willing partner, a girlfriend or whatever then just find some escort and get rid of your virginity. It's just sex, I don't get why people make such a big deal out of it, it is not a big deal and you wouldn't think sex is some kind of magical special thing that can only be done with someone who you're in love with or something anymore. Sure, it's great if you can have it with someone you care about but if this is not the case then it's much healthier for him to finally do it with an escort and get it over with then be a virgin forever.
It's just sex
If its no big deal then why all the pressure to get an escort? Getting an escort is no answer to his problem. I wouldn't get an escort either and I am a 45 year old virgin. Prostitution is illegal in most places in the states.
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