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Old 12-22-2014, 01:16 PM
 
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So what if it isn't innate. Do it anyway. Lots of things don't come naturally to me. I do them as they may lead to the outcomes I want. If I stayed in my comfort zones I'd probably not leave my house.
well if it isn't innate then that means I can't do it
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Old 12-22-2014, 01:17 PM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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well if it isn't innate then that means I can't do it

No, it doesn't. That is not the definition of innate. You can, and likely do, things that aren't innate all the time.
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Old 12-22-2014, 01:23 PM
 
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If you can get yourself to the point of not putting women on a pedestal, you are halfway home.

So what if you never dated? So what if you never approached women?

These things are borderline meaningless in the large scale.

If you can get your confidence up to a certain point, these things will be much easier for you.

How do you do that? Probably the easiest way is to devout the next year to hitting the gym as hard as you can. Get a killer body, it's the great equalizer. Women will then start approaching you.
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Old 12-22-2014, 01:47 PM
 
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If you can get yourself to the point of not putting women on a pedestal, you are halfway home.

So what if you never dated? So what if you never approached women?

These things are borderline meaningless in the large scale.

If you can get your confidence up to a certain point, these things will be much easier for you.

How do you do that? Probably the easiest way is to devout the next year to hitting the gym as hard as you can. Get a killer body, it's the great equalizer. Women will then start approaching you.
While I like hitting the gym myself, getting a killer body is no guarantee of success.
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Old 12-22-2014, 02:41 PM
 
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If you can get yourself to the point of not putting women on a pedestal, you are halfway home.

So what if you never dated? So what if you never approached women?

These things are borderline meaningless in the large scale.

If you can get your confidence up to a certain point, these things will be much easier for you.

How do you do that? Probably the easiest way is to devout the next year to hitting the gym as hard as you can. Get a killer body, it's the great equalizer. Women will then start approaching you.
you know he can't hold his breath for that, it's hardcore rare for women to approach men first
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Old 12-22-2014, 04:39 PM
 
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This anger must make you really popular with the ladies.
the fact that it is often argued and debated that dating and relationships gets harder for women as they get older, that womens dating/sexual market value declines as they get older meanwhile men can extend theirs for much longer, I like to think of that as life, reality giving women the karma treatment for their lack of initiative towards women they were attracted to, being too damn passive in dating
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Old 12-22-2014, 04:49 PM
 
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the fact that it is often argued and debated that dating and relationships gets harder for women as they get older, that womens dating/sexual market value declines as they get older meanwhile men can extend theirs for much longer, I like to think of that as life, reality giving women the karma treatment for their lack of initiative towards women they were attracted to, being too damn passive in dating
I see, you want to see all women punished for not approaching you. Nice attitude, Elliot.

Are you receiving any kind of life skills coaching or therapy for your autism? I am betting that your social skills could use some work.
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Old 12-22-2014, 04:59 PM
 
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I see, you want to see all women punished for not approaching you. Nice attitude, Elliot.

Are you receiving any kind of life skills coaching or therapy for your autism? I am betting that your social skills could use some work.
yes I have seeking out social-skills coaches, consultants and therapy, its the bitterness and frustration of being a late bloomer and having to live with that for the rest of my life
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Old 12-22-2014, 05:03 PM
 
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yes I have seeking out social-skills coaches, consultants and therapy, its the bitterness and frustration of being a late bloomer and having to live with that for the rest of my life
seeking out is not the same as using.

Meanwhile, bitterness and frustration and your biggest sins, ENVY and JEALOUSY, are stupid, useless emotions that are making you a toxic person to be around.
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Old 12-22-2014, 05:14 PM
 
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seeking out is not the same as using.

Meanwhile, bitterness and frustration and your biggest sins, ENVY and JEALOUSY, are stupid, useless emotions that are making you a toxic person to be around.
why is it wrong to be frustrated, bitter, angry over being a late bloomer?
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