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Being friends with ex's of any gender is normal. Your fiancee is not doing anything wrong. The problem is that you are upset by normal behaviour
I would imagine it's becuase everyone is aware the "friend" still proclaims love for the other and dispite that nugget everyone still goes around acting like it means nothing
It's the lack of seriousness given to the professed feelings of others that would be the issue in these situations, not so much the circumstance of former "lovers" remaining friendly.
OP can correct me if I'm off base, but that's where my mind would go if I had to put myself in the same situation.
Hi everyone. I'm in need of some serious advice.I'm in a relationship with a woman who i have gotten engaged to and I've been with her for a year and a half.we just moved to a new apartment and lo and behold two doors down is my fiance's old girlfriend who she was in a relationship with many years ago. Now this woman she used to be in a relationship with his admitted to me that she is still in love with my fiance. All this has been very uncomfortable for me however I have tried to be understanding about it but my fiancee insists on spending time with her. now I have to ask my fiance if she could please respect me and not spend time with her because she is an old girlfriend. For me is very hurtful. my fiance is told me that there is nothing going on anders nothing for me to worry about. To me this is irrelevantbecause I don't think it's right that she hurts me and spend time with this person. I have asked in a respectful way and tried to explain to her how much it hurts me but she insists on doing what she wants. this has effected our very negatively and I don't know what to do about it one of her opinions is it should make no difference to me because it's a woman and to me I don't differentiate gender
I tried to understand your post. As far I understood your post your self a woman or a man is not clear to me. And you say about your girl friend had a relationship with another woman before. And she still insist hang around with her and do what ever she wants. I am not sure how you call that woman as your fiancee? I don't see any respect or good communication between each other. The best thing is you two sit and talk.
In answer to neilajones she cheated on me twice. So yes there's trust issues
then it is seriously time to let go and find another lover. you dont need the drama in your life right now. if you cannot trust your current lady, end it now.
I'm sorry eveeyone . I'm a man and shes a mother of 2
i dont care if you are a baboon, and she is a lioness, the fact remains that there are trust issues here, and she is spending far too much time with this other person without regard to your feelings on the subject. you do not need this kind of drama in your life right now, so either sit her down, and tell her exactly how you feel about this, or let her go and find another lady that isnt carrying the drama and baggage this one is.
In answer to neilajones she cheated on me twice. So yes there's trust issues
Ohhhh..... that is very different. She is showing a lack of empathy and/or remorse.
Yes, in your shoes I would figure this relationship was not salvageable, and would be thinking about how to separate in a way that is best for the children.
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