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Come on now. How many people really end up with someone they don't want? It sounds like many of you believe there is an epidemic of people getting into serious relationships and marriage with individuals they are not attracted to. I think only sociopaths are capable of that.
People typically get married because they love each other deeply and want to spend the rest of their lives together. It has always been thus.
I understand where the pro-league people are coming from, but I still think that people should pursue who they want. If they end up alone, so be it. How is that worse than ending up with someone who you don't really want?
I don't know how old you are, but most of the people I knew had some serious apprehensions about marrying and having children with the people they eventually did with.
Almost nobody married somebody they were totally smitten and sure about. As a matter of fact, I can't really think of anybody.
Like people who think either a person is attractive or they are not?
That's not black and white AT ALL.
You know why? Because all of our definitions of attractive are different. AND the woman you think is a 4 thinks she's a 7 and may reluctantly talk to a guy who she thinks is a 5 but his personality makes him an 8.
The talk of leagues is so juvenile. As you get older you will realize leagues only exist in the minds of people with very skewed self image.
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Originally Posted by JJS99
Almost nobody married somebody they were totally smitten and sure about. As a matter of fact, I can't really think of anybody.
This ^^^ is very sad and probably explains why you believe in leagues.
I don't know how old you are, but most of the people I knew had some serious apprehensions about marrying and having children with the people they eventually did with.
Almost nobody married somebody they were totally smitten and sure about. As a matter of fact, I can't really think of anybody.
That's very sad. I am the opposite, I don't know anyone who didn't marry someone they were head over heels with. I have bucket loads of Facebook wedding pictures from my myriad of nursing friends and if they were faking happiness they should all of gotten an Oscar.
Question for men and women. Sorry if it's been asked already
It comes up alot. What's your thought? Do you believe in leagues, and some posters' thoughts on that.
Like saying if you're ugly, you only need to try and date other ugly people? Or if you get rejected, you're being picky and "aiming to high"? Or if lots of people only want sex from you with no strings, they were too hot or good for you?
You know why? Because all of our definitions of attractive are different. AND the woman you think is a 4 thinks she's a 7 and may reluctantly talk to a guy who she thinks is a 5 but his personality makes him an 8.
The talk of leagues is so juvenile. As you get older you will realize leagues only exist in the minds of people with very skewed self image.
I agree with this. Nobody is a definite number. Everybody perceives the appearances of the opposite sex differently. It's not that cut and dry
That's very sad. I am the opposite, I don't know anyone who didn't marry someone they were head over heels with. I have bucket loads of Facebook wedding pictures from my myriad of nursing friends and if they were faking happiness they should all of gotten an Oscar.
Think about what you just said. Every couple that you know was head over heels in love with each other from the start to the end?
Keep in mind I'm coming from a place of neutrality. I know some good couples.
It's not sad that you should logically question whether this person is right for you to spend the rest of your life with.
This is real life, not Twilight or Shrek where you meet a person and you know you're gonna spend the rest of your life with them.
Come on now. How many people really end up with someone they don't want? It sounds like many of you believe there is an epidemic of people getting into serious relationships and marriage with individuals they are not attracted to. I think only sociopaths are capable of that.
People typically get married because they love each other deeply and want to spend the rest of their lives together. It has always been thus.
I'm sure some do, but you also have people who are afraid of being alone, want to get married for financial reasons, are desperate to have kids, etc. I don't think it would be that hard to end up with someone who you didn't really want if you were desperate to get in a relationship or marriage and you felt like you couldn't do any better.
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