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GOOD for you Robyn. I'm glad you're done with his crap and I hope this nips the issue in the bud. He has got to learn that this isn't a game and that there are no winners but the kids stand to be the losers.
I'm sure he's too ignorant to figure that out though.
It's sorta like trying to take on the bully every day on the playground. If you react directly or personally, you get in trouble. It's best to tell the authority figure/s and allow them to do their job.
I know this is a simplistic analogy, but ya gotta do what ya gotta do.
Robyn, you didn't create this situation. He did. You can't fix it for him or force him to be a good father. The system can insist that he meet his legal obligations or face consequences.
Does he change jobs often? Does he get po'd at the 'boss/system/rules' and leave? If he can't bully to get his own way, does he rant and rage about how unfair the authority person is?
Some people should be so lucky that they are not sitting in jail right now.
Wonder who? He called me at 204 today going off.... again, why do I answer?!?!?!
I cut him off, got the reason for his call, and hung up.
So later on, I listened to my home messages, and it was a man from the treasurers office.
I got a letter from them yesterday or Saturday or whenever. personal property taxes.
Joy. he went up into that treasures office, right near the police, now, and went off on those people. They had to bring in a man to talk to him and get him straight.
I called the man at 430, and he explained to me what happened.
Why would you do that?
Why would you go into a city building, right near the police.... and do that? I won't his bail call... fugitabowtit.
It's all about money again and his disdain for authority figures who will make him pay it. He probably sees you as trying to be his authority figure too.
Well, there's a dollar "figure" that will cure that ailment, and as the only authority figure that matters, the judge will be the right one to figure it all out. Go figure!
Here comes the judge! Here comes the judge!
Thank you guys... you know, i try so hard just to be nice... i know this ahs not a thing to do with nice/not nice.
Nope, he had that job since before l was born, and she is 12 now. But he was driving a ways to get to it, and he can hardly hang with the new one, he feels they expect too much from him.
Sun.... have you chronicled my posts? how do you remember these things?
Yes, I remembered about it and searched for it.
You didn't say what he did other than "going off", but it didn't sound like a sensible way to act in a public office. He'd better not think that he can get away with "going off" on the judge. Good grief!
Screaming, yelling at people. I cannot believe he wasn't arrested that day.
There is the possibility that he may be when we go to court. I doubt it though.
He will have his lawyer there, and she will say, your honor, Mr. ________ had to change jobs, and they will not be offerering him insurance until after his 90 probationary period. He has gotten an insurance policy for those three months so that his children may be covered during that time.
Is this true, Mrs.______________? Yes sir, but the policy does not cover office visit, prescriptions, or specialist office visits.
Thats not right, sir, she will say to the judge. He will look at me. I will have the paper work that shows what is covered. What is not.
Is this corect, Mr. ________?
Then we will move onto the fact that he did not report the change of job, and salary.
I didn't know I had to, your honor.
Forget this, L and I are going down and watching a ball game....
Evening folks!
Oh.. talked to number 2, and I am tired of calling him that, anymore....
You should thank IB for suggesting that you go back to the courts to clarify your respective responsibilities. Not really, but how funny that he said that to you when he is the one who will have an eye opener once you do as he has "ordered".
And the changing jobs thing- WTF? (a friend recently said that WTF stands for Where's the Friendship...I like that!) He not only changed jobs, he moved into the family compound. Since his sis, mother and IB all live there together, haven't his living expenses been reduced? Let him show the checks he has paid- either to them or directly to the mortgage company or utilities. Give me a break! Might be time for an update on financial disclosure.
Glad that you have changed number 2's name. It reminded me of Thing 1 and Thing 2!
You know, I can be frieds with one, but two... hmm... he is P.
Yes, ib says he has to pay rent, and everything, that he is strapped for cash...
Yea right... can't even give the kids money for a field trip, tells me all that he pays covers every thing they need... not.
He doesn't even get it... he really doesn't.... he needs a hard slap in the face, to bring him inot some kind of reality... where he is right now, I have not a clue... but it is not in the real world, which is where I live....
Oh and yes, he made me so dag on mad, and the minute he said you should go to the court house, I started walking. The building I work in separates the school board from the court house, and I was walking down the corrider to go out the front door of the building.
I was speed walking, it was like going back to the track... the freedom track.... fast fast fast...
Right turn and on to the courthouse.
Gacwe the sherrif my cellphone and he asked for my car keys,, dont have any... he took my name and locked up the phone, I emptied my pockets into the little bowl and almost ran through that thing...
Dont forget your things!!!
I was gone!
I was mad... I was fierce.
Oh geez, and I do not get that way, I don't know what came over me.... but I am glad it did...
I'm glad the anger worked for you as well, Robyn. That's how it happens some times. It can be a positive motivator when used properly. No need for drama. No need for negative exchanges with any one. Just the facts ma'am. Let the system try to do its thing.
The system isn't always a panacea for all injustices, but it's the best we've got.
I hope there is a resolution for you and the kids very soon.
For DAIB...."Grow up, Do-wad. You can't lie and rage yourself through life in order to get your own way. Some time, some where a bigger, badder SOB will help you understand. Be glad it's just the courts. Maybe your family needs to see you made an example for them to comprehend appropriate behavior....but I doubt it. They will spend their lives fighting and blaming an enemy that doesn't exist." Idiots!!!!!!!!!!
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