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[quote=NewbiePoster;36317367]For OLD, it's best, because you don't know the person you're meeting, and first dates are usually a basic meet-&-greet, to see if you even want to date beyond that. It's not fair to men to have to pay for some kind of meal or event or snack if you don't click, and they have 10 more dates lined up that week or month.[/QUOTE]
For every 10 dates that you might have lined up with other women that week, she probably has 10 times that amount.
You can insist on everything being "fair" if you want to, but I think it's a losing strategy. You're competing with a lot of other men for her attention. If I were a man and I was sincerely interested in getting to know a particular woman, I would be playing to win, not playing to make a point about fairness.
Well, I entirely live off my mom's income for the time being which is a primary reason I don't date. I should have a job in the next couple weeks, though.
I definitely agree with the whole going dutch movement. First dates are to gauge whether or not there's even potential for a relationship, and the two of you are essentially strangers, so neither party is under any obligation to pay regardless of who asked who. It's a date not a transaction, he's not buying my time so I'll always offer to go dutch. Although, if my date is set on paying I'll let him, and while I'm flattered by the sentiment it can leave me feeling a bit obligated or uncomfortable at times...
I definitely agree with the whole going dutch movement. First dates are to gauge whether or not there's even potential for a relationship, and the two of you are essentially strangers, so neither party is under any obligation to pay regardless of who asked who. It's a date not a transaction, he's not buying my time so I'll always offer to go dutch. Although, if my date is set on paying I'll let him, and while I'm flattered by the sentiment it can leave me feeling a bit obligated or uncomfortable at times...
Times are changing. What do you think about chivalry on the first date?
I'll always pay on the first date. In fact, I'll pay most of the time, BUT I do think the woman should offer to pay occasionally. If not, I feel taken advantage of. This was true of my last girlfriend, who as it turns out, was only looking for a man with a lot of money. Guess I dodged a bullet there. Its really hard for men these days to know what a woman thinks. Women have the advantage of making a lot more money than in the past (theoretically the same as men, though I realize thats not actually the case) and still have the man pay for everything. Some even expect it.
Going dutch mean you pay half he/she pay half what is not digest me at all even though I live here.But there are advantages on that as total strangers if you guys did not click then you had a meal on your own. That is there.This far I paid my dates except to the last weirdo. what ever the link does not work. so no clue what said there. I had 3 dates per past 5 years so I know less. Good luck!
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so I know less. Good luck!
