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In my short stint with online dating, I think there are way too many people looking for instant relationships, and they usually start out with the constant texting. Beware of those types!
I agree with you- I have a lot of issues with online dating that are way off topic here.
But this guy is not from online, so those standards and norms are inapplicable here.
Wait for him to contact you and wait for him to ask for the next date. Men like to be the chaser. If he doesn't contact you within a time that is acceptable to you, forget about him. I really can't say from the information that you gave whether he may or may not be interested. Let him take the lead, then you will know that he is interested and not responding to your overtures.
Wait for him to contact you and wait for him to ask for the next date. Men like to be the chaser. If he doesn't contact you within a time that is acceptable to you, forget about him. I really can't say from the information that you gave whether he may or may not be interested. Let him take the lead, then you will know that he is interested and not responding to your overtures.
I am thinking along these lines too. I wish I could give more information that will help you guys tell me if he's interested or not(although that makes me feel as I'm 15) but I am frankly not sure what information to give. I think I said everything!
As am I writing all this, I am realizing that the main issue is that I like direct people and I feel uncomfortable when people play hard to get if they do indeed like me.
I am thinking along these lines too. I wish I could give more information that will help you guys tell me if he's interested or not(although that makes me feel as I'm 15) but I am frankly not sure what information to give. I think I said everything!
As am I writing all this, I am realizing that the main issue is that I like direct people and I feel uncomfortable when people play hard to get if they do indeed like me.
Sounds like an ok guy so far. I think you're jumping the gun a little on the notion of playing hard to get.
If it's only been two days and you're already questioning.... Maybe YOU need to slow down.
You contacted him, you gave him a kiss.... Just saying.
I am thinking along these lines too. I wish I could give more information that will help you guys tell me if he's interested or not(although that makes me feel as I'm 15) but I am frankly not sure what information to give. I think I said everything!
As am I writing all this, I am realizing that the main issue is that I like direct people and I feel uncomfortable when people play hard to get if they do indeed like me.
Is he playing hard to get or being a gentleman? Be patient. Time will tell.
Is he playing hard to get or being a gentleman? Be patient. Time will tell.
Bingo.
Honestly, I think lots of women, particularly younger women, have become so used to how most men are today, that it confounds them when they actually meet a guy who's seems a little more traditional. A guy who doesn't feel entitled. An adult male who doesn't expect a woman to "put out" by the 3rd date.
OP, I know you feel very attracted to him, so your desire to get closer to him physically is completely natural. But it's totally okay to not have kissed after a 2nd date. Really. In fact, in my books, waiting a little bit for the first kiss, just like waiting for sex, makes those experiences all the better.
Honestly, I think lots of women, particularly younger women, have become so used to how most men are today, that it confounds them when they actually meet a guy who's seems a little more traditional. A guy who doesn't feel entitled. An adult male who doesn't expect a woman to "put out" by the 3rd date.
OP, I know you feel very attracted to him, so your desire to get closer to him physically is completely natural. But it's totally okay to not have kissed after a 2nd date. Really. In fact, in my books, waiting a little bit for the first kiss, just like waiting for sex, makes those experiences all the better.
So true! The other thing is that people don't expect good-looking guys to be shy or awkward, but they're people, too, some are as shy as the next guy. The OP may be wondering though, is he just shy/dragging is feet, or is he playing her, and going out with other women? We can't know, but I don't think the guy should be judged harshly just because he didn't return a peck on the cheek and engage in compulsive texting.
Wait for him to contact you and wait for him to ask for the next date. Men like to be the chaser. If he doesn't contact you within a time that is acceptable to you, forget about him. I really can't say from the information that you gave whether he may or may not be interested. Let him take the lead, then you will know that he is interested and not responding to your overtures.
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
So true! The other thing is that people don't expect good-looking guys to be shy or awkward, but they're people, too, some are as shy as the next guy. The OP may be wondering though, is he just shy/dragging is feet, or is he playing her, and going out with other women? We can't know, but I don't think the guy should be judged harshly just because he didn't return a peck on the cheek and engage in compulsive texting.
Well if he is seeing other women at the same time, there's definitely nothing wrong with that. Definitely nothing wrong with that until it is implied that two people are exclusive.
Sounds like an ok guy so far. I think you're jumping the gun a little on the notion of playing hard to get.
If it's only been two days and you're already questioning.... Maybe YOU need to slow down.
You contacted him, you gave him a kiss.... Just saying.
I don't know.... I sincerely hope I am not coming on too strong. I always worry about that. I spent my college years dating one guy for 4 years so I always worry that my "game" is off... haha.
A few people told me that "I send mixed signals" so the reason I contacted him after the first date is to clarify that if it's the case. I decided I will not contact him this time.
Anyway, I sincerely appreciate everyone's advice- I've never used this forum before; very interesting stuff!
Wait for him to contact you and wait for him to ask for the next date. Men like to be the chaser. If he doesn't contact you within a time that is acceptable to you, forget about him. I really can't say from the information that you gave whether he may or may not be interested. Let him take the lead, then you will know that he is interested and not responding to your overtures.
Some men on this forum have said, though, that after a couple of dates, they expect the woman to initiate a date and organize it. But I think in the OP's case, it hasn't been clear the guy's even interested in continuing. She really hasn't gotten enough feedback to know where she stands at all. It's hard to know what to do.
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